2006-10-17 11:41:11 · 29 answers · asked by J I M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Your son...your decision. Simple as that.
2006-10-17 11:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its so strange to see this question because i was going to get my son who is 20months old, a boy cabbage patch for christmas and some ppl say thats not right, my husband had one when he was little and he turned out just fine. hink its ok its just like if he had a stuffed animal except its a doll so big deal. I wouldnt get my son a baby doll though, but a boy cabbage patch is just fine i think. (a male friend of ours also had a boy cabbage patch when he was little and he's a normal guy now too so tell them to hush!)
2006-10-17 22:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by button 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok here is my answer....simply put...Get him the doll!! You are his mother....you can decide what to do....but then you know this already because well like 10 people said that before I had the chance. All the stuff people said about kids learning nuturing, and fathering and compassion and all that is true too of course but I also do not have to tell you that either because the people before me covered that too....lol.
So what I will say is about a month ago my husband, 20 month old son, and I went to Toys R Us with the intention of getting our son a toy of some sort. After looking at countless options we decided on baby Isaac...a newborn Cabbage Patch Kid. We also got a set that included a high chair, swing, cradle, car seat, and stroller for baby Isaac. Our son enjoys playing with these and sleeps with his baby every night. My hubby is a manly man , maybe even a bit of a hick, but he never once even flinched at the idea. He said alright if you want to get it for him go ahead.
Now when we put our son to bed each night after prayers we tell him we love him, and sweet dreams then we say good night Dylan, and good night baby Isaac and kiss them both. He tells his doll good night and sleeps soundly. I do not believe that my son will end up with gender identity issues or any other problems because of this doll. In fact I strongly believe Isaac will enrich his life in many ways.
And as for those CPK haters for boys....I have encountered my share...we tell them that he likes his doll and that is all that matters. I would never force him to play with anything....he plays with trucks and dinosaurs also. The negative people never shake my opinion. I don't budge or show any doubt in my decision about it. They will eventually get over it and used to it. But NEVER let anyone call your son names or put him or his doll down...that will cause issues for your little man.
I hope all of this helps you! Have fun picking the doll out!!! We did.
2006-10-18 00:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by })i({ J and D's Momma })i({ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you have family that takes an interest in you and your son, but it can also be a pain!! I know!!
My family has an opinion on EVERYTHING I do or don't do. I smile, I thank them for letting me know and then do what I want to do!!
If you want to get your son a Cabbage Patch doll, then you should!
2006-10-17 18:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by seaelen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason why a little boy shouldn't be allowed to play with/own dolls. I have an 18 month old boy that has a couple baby dolls, And every so often he will get them, and hold them, and kiss 'em and hug 'em, One day these little boys are going to grow up and be daddies, Why shouldn't they be allowed to 'practice' being GOOD daddies when they're little?? :-)
I'd say GET HIM THE DOLL!!! Your family will get over it eventually...Would they rather he grow up one day, And be a loving/caring daddy that knows how to handle an infant, Or one that is either NOT a good father, Or doesn't know how to handle an infant?? :-)
2006-10-19 10:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him the doll. It will teach him a variety of things, like being a nurturing father some day, when he cares for a 'baby" now. Later, when he learns to take the clothes off and on, it will help with his fine motor skills and in teaching what clothes go where. Both of my boys, ages 9 and 3, loved their "babies". The whole notion that boys shouldn't play with dolls is very antiquated anyway.
2006-10-18 10:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by salukisunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does your family oppose the idea? thier reasoning...
Studies show that boys who had dolls to play with as children make better fathers... It in no way will make them homosexual (that is predetermined by brain chemistry)... Playing with dolls fosters the desire to nurture and care... Dolls also can provide a security factor because they are highly portable and can accompany the child almost everywhere...
If your son shows an interest in dolls get him a doll if however his interest is in a different toy get that toy... You, not your family best knows your child and you are the parent if you want to get your son a doll and he wants one get it...
Just make sure to watch your family members who are opposed to it as they may make snide comments etc. about the doll in front of your son and you will need to put a stop to them asap... A good way to stop it is to gather literature and studies..
http://www.uic.edu/classes/psych/psych270/boysandgirls.htm
Children go through many stages in developmental play make a wide variety of toys available and allow your son to choose what toy he wants to engage with at what time... Some days he may want to play with a doll and others a truck, both are fine...
2006-10-17 19:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think it is right then go ahead and get him a doll.Your family knows what the boy could end up acting like if he starts playing with dolls.A boy is suppose to have trucks and cars to play in the dirt.Action figures are more a boys doll
2006-10-21 09:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Billy T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little bro used to Love to play with baby dolls till he was 7. We teas him about it today as a 6-ft buff ex-army guy. :-)
I think there is nothing wrong with it. It will let him learn nurturing skills and be good if you have another baby. Maybe if more people encouraged there sons to do these things we would have a less violent society. Why would this doll be bad but GI Joes (boy barbies) be good? LOL. Do what makes you and your son happy.
2006-10-17 19:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by nativeAZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I plan on getting my one year old son A cabbage patch for Christmas and I see nothing wrong with it I have three older sons and I bought all of them one when they were little I think it teaches them to be good fathers .They played with them the same as they did there trucks when they were young matter of fact they pushed them around in there trucks.
2006-10-17 21:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by SAHM and proud of it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a good idea, boys who play with dolls have proven to be better fathers. your family is just opposed to it cause they dont like the idea of a boy playing with a doll. my dad is the same way but I have a daughter so I have "girl" toys and I let my son choose what to play with even if it means him playing with a doll
2006-10-17 19:48:31 · answer #11 · answered by Brandi D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋