Mature Men only please....Would you date someone that is already pregnant?

Question

I was just curious how many of you would date or consider a serious relationship with a women that is expecting a child? Could you or would you be willing to step up to the plate and be the Father? Serious answers please!!

Just for the record guys....I am of course talking about a woman pregnant with someone elses child and the biological Father is gone

Xae, you twit, maybe the Father died. Not all single pregnant women are sluts you know.

Thanks to all of you for your responses. Most of you actually put thought and maturity into your answers and that is what I was looking for....serious well thought responses. It will be difficult picking the best answer. I appreciate both opinions to my question, however, a few of you are obviously not capable of answering a mature and serious question. Considering all the possibilities is great but some of you just assumed I was talking about some girl that got knocked up and left the father, not even considering that the bio-father might have died and left his wife with child or that he just walked out without looking back. Either way I just wanted to get opinions... Thanks

Answer 1

Yes. The ability to donate sperm does not make someone able to be a father. If we were compatible and had a mutual attraction, why not. It's hard to find anyone without baggage or skeletons in their closet. God knows I've got mine. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Several things come to mind and yes I have dated a woman who was with child and not mine! First off in my case I knew this person many years and we had dated before and our dates were not that serious of a thing just killing time between romances nothing much past petting ever happened. Now as a man would I date someone with child. If I did not know and found out later I might continue relationship if things were going well but with expectations from female that we are dating and not at this time planning a future! As a man you have to realize this woman will want a Father for her child and are you willing and able to do so!? Its unfair to both parties! No women date Mothers (woman with children) so dating woman expecting should be no different. Would I do it again if circumstances were right yes I would but then I am married now with five kids! You ask if I would "consider" a serious relationship that depends on why you are dating. If your dating for female company than no if your dating to find that special someone then her condition should not play role in it. Stepping up to the plate that's simple I have had step children and one of my five is a step child (who never knew her Father) all are treated equal by both of us (three are not my wife's) as if all five were ours together! I hope this helped some because each person will have different views based on experiences attitudes and of course the preggers female!

Answer 3

what a hot topic. there is so much that depends on who the father was and his relationship with the woman or me. it would also bear on the decision what race the father was. if the woman was a different race, i would have to say no. not because i am prejudice but because the world is.
a child of mine was born from an adulterous affair that my ex had. the child is in his 30s and does not know that i am not his father. when you are there for the morning sickness, the shopping for the nursery, the delivery and the other activities that other fathers go through that child is yours. i never once thought of him as someone else's child while he was growing up. i gave him my name and treated him as my own. i think you should continue to date this woman and make sure that this is something that you will be able to live with. once you marry, name the child and register the birth certificate the child is legally yours and you are responsible for the support. DO NOT MARRY THE WOMAN BECAUSE YOU FEEL SORRY FOR HER OR THE BABY. a soft heart now could mean a rough landing when you come down from the initial high of a new relationship.

Answer 4

I would be very willing to date a woman (if I were still single or a widower) if the chemistry seem to fit for the both of us.

I actually have dated several women over the years with newborn or younger children. One child after a couple of months actually wanted to start calling me dad as she felt so comfortable around me and was hoping that her mom would spend more time with me (a reversal of the usual roll where a mom might like a man but the children didn't).

To date however, with the woman that I did eventually marry, we have not been able to have children so we are discussing becoming foster partents as we are much older now.

Hope that this helps - so the answer for me is yes.

Answer 5

If I did make such a decision (and it's not mine to make, so I don't know what I'd do), there are a few things I would make sure of.

1) She names the biological father on the birth certificate.

2) I don't marry her before the child is born. (Children born into an existing marriage are assume the offpsring of the husband unless he spends a lot of legal effort saying they aren't when they are BORN, and even then, getting out of that responsibility is not guarunteed.)

It is risky - she's obviously not completely out of the previous relationship.

Answer 6

No there is something wrong with a woman who is pregnant and want to "date" other men. That sound very selfish of the mother to be.

Sound like a woman who can't stand on her own two feet and need a man to support her while expecting that man to raise and care for a another's man's child.

Would you do that for a woman if you were a guy and a choose to pick any woman he wants.

Answer 7

Sorry, I am not a guy! I couldn't help myself! I was pregnate and soon to be single parent and I dated.I did not have sex with a him while I was pregnate though. The guy I dated was very supportive and sensitve to my needs at the time though. After the baby was born it distanced me b/c I went back to work and my childs father became more involved with her care. Distance and the fact that he later got married seperated us. He is divorced now and we are working on it once again.

If your wondering, don't let a womans pregnacy keep you from loving her. My advice is to be sure you know what you are signing up for its not easy. As her partner make sure that you are willing and able to become dad to her child and stick around for the long haul.

Answer 8

Let's turn it around...

Would you consider dating another person, if YOU were the father with the child on the way with another woman with whom you were no in a relationship?

Same difference, only, you don't have the child growing in you. But, you still have one on the way.

Back to this case...

It depends on the circumstances of why the father of the child is no longer around. Did he leave her? Then, it's not her fault he was a loser.

Answer 9

By asking "Step up to the plate and be the father" sounds like you may be more interested in finding a dad for your child than finding a companion for yourself.

There seems to be little upside for the guy.

Answer 10

the only problem is the father, they tend to do crazy things and i like living. But yes i would step up and try to be the best father figure as i could, so long as the father is out of the picture for good.And if he is out of the pic, than i would like to be considered the father(it sounds bad but it would only confuse the child if he/she had 2 dads). If your in this situation i hope things work out for you.