My son is 18 months old. He has been fasinated with his penis since he first discovered it during a bath a while back. I realize that children his age and a little older are discovering their bodies and they dont know any different, they just know it feels good but... its getting to the point where I cant change a poopy diaper without someone to hold his hands so he wont go to grab his penis and get his hands in his poop and he tries to put his hands in his diaper to get to his penis everywhere we go (at church, at friends house etc). My boyfriend and my parents will grab his hand out his diaper and make a big deal out of it like he is doing something wrong. I dont want him to get th eimpression like what he is doing is "bad" because I dont believe it is and he is too young to explain that things like that arent done in public. I just want to be able to change his diaper without getting another persons help or being embarressed when we go out. How do I get him to stop?
2006-10-17 11:25:34 · 18 answers · asked by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Oh and I have to tape his diaper on at night so he wont take it off to get to his penis and yes I have started potty training him.
2006-10-17 11:26:55 · update #1
Its not him playing with his penis that really bothers me. He has naked time each night for a little bit before bath and I dont mind it then, its just very hard to change his poopy diaper! Im sure there has to be a mommy out there that has had this same problem and will give me an honest answer. And there is no way in hell that im rubbing chili pepper on my sons penis or his hands. That should be considered child abuse!
2006-10-17 11:38:30 · update #2
My son did the same thing, God help you if he gets to a poopy diaper before you do! What we did was to buy lots of onesies and several overalls. We put potty training on hold for two months (to give him time to "forget" about constantly playing with himself) and kept him dressed and unable to get there except during "naked time" at home. Tell your boyfriend and parents that no one is to say a word about it and to help you keep him dressed for awhile. It is rare but some kids are ready to potty train at 18 months. Most experts will say that the muscles aren't ready until after two but my oldest was interested at 18 months so we let him try without any expectation of success. I would hold the potty-training for awhile because you REALLY don't want him to find a poopy diaper before you in public (its horrible, you will have to leave town...lol). It is very respectful and kind to think of your son's feelings and not want others to make him feel bad. Good luck.
2006-10-17 14:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bigger deal you make out of this, the longer it will continue. And I have to tell you, I teach 4 and 5 year olds and they still have their hands in their pants some of the time. Hey, if you had a toy in your pocket that was guaranteed to make you feel good, wouldn't you play with it? I think you should ignore the behavior and persuade your friends and relatives to do the same if possible. When he gets older you can explain to him about public and private behavior. Almost any attention at this age reinforces the behavior. Give him lots of attention at other times, lots of love.
2006-10-17 11:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by toughjoycey55 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW So little to know about that little jewel down there... Hes a man alright. Even young children have sensory down there and cause them to like touching. I would use onesies on him at all times... some you can even put on backwards so he can't unsnap them. When your changing his diaper I would offer a toy of some sort to keep him busy. If you are changing his diaper and he reaches down, just push his hand back and say "no not right now". I do not have a boy but I do have a girl. I have to do this with her or she reaches down. :-)
2006-10-17 12:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so let me get this straight... You give him "naked" time where you allow him to play with his penis. But you think he is going to recognize when "naked" time is and when it isn't. He's just a little guy, he has not idea what time is appropriate and what time it's not. You need to tell him no when he plays with it, then he will know not to play out in public. Believe me, when he turns 15, it won't matter what you said to him when he was two, he won't remember. But at least he will have learned the lesson you don't play with your penis out in public. There are definately men out there that never learned that lesson.
2006-10-17 18:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he circumcised? If no longer there's a splash inflammation under the foreskin that's inflicting him to the touch it lots. it is common for little boys to play with themselves; besides the certainty that, i could think of that in the event that they are making it bleed they could surely stop. How long does it final? LOL till dying i assume. attempt bib overalls, they are extra durable to get rid of. If he keeps and the bleeding does additionally, i could take him to the everyday practitioner as that isn't common. maybe he has basically a splash a bladder an infection? whilst it sounds unusual, touching himself feels stable even at an early age, God made our bodies to respond to particular touches, he did no longer installation an on/off swap that determines at what age it is optimal.
2016-10-19 21:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by templeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehehe--"in pubic"!
Sorry, had a moment of immaturity re. your typo.
Try ignoring it. He's found a new friend, and when ever he plays with him everybody suddenly pays LOTS of attention to him. Have him wear tops that button or snap under the crotch so he can't get in there. Give him a toy to play with while you change him, also. Otherwise, he'll grow out of it soon enough. I don't think he's a pervert in the rough...
2006-10-17 11:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Angela M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
18 months is way too young to potty train. Distract him with something whenever he pulls at himself. Give him something to play with when you change his diaper. Most people realize that babies dont' mean anything nasty when they touch themselves, don't worry about it. Try dressing him in overalls and t shirts or sweatshirts. Keeps the tummy covered, they look cute and he can't get at himself.
2006-10-17 11:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent, so I can only offer a best guess on this.
Wouldnt a toy be distraction for him that wouldnt have to do this to himself?
Are you sure he is not doing this to compete for your attention?
Your right that he shouldnt be made to feel ashamed of himself as this would more likely than not lead into him getting some sort of complex in later years.
Its entirely plausible that he sees this nothing more than as a innocent game to get mum and dads attention.
Remember a child that young is not going to be aware of the same social taboos that you or I feel obliged to be constrained by.
2006-10-17 11:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by jason12211 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
aren't boys wonderful!!? i wouldn't be making a big deal out it either, perhaps let him run around the house without his nappy on for a while. you are doing the right thing, but unfortunately, there isn't much else you can do, he wants to explore his body. my 20 month old daughter takes her nappy off as well, so i put them on backwards, won't take long before she figures that one out, but at least i don't have to clean up the mess in her cot first thing in the morning.
2006-10-17 11:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by leolady0765 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal behavior for his age. Try to keep him occupied with other things that keep his hands busy. Try giving him a cool toy or a cookie when you change his diaper, so he has something to distract him. Good Luck.
2006-10-17 11:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋