um where do i start.. he flirts with me, i dont want to ruin anything between me and my boyfriend- we have been together for 5 years and his dad in the last year has been overally friendly to me.
He is 53, im 19, personally age is not a problem for me- i dont see him as being pervy but i do feel awkward if im left alone with him- its only happened once and i did feel awkward.
Hes happily married to my boyfriend's mother and he is not the type of man to cheat or whatever, i dont know if hes goin through a crisis and seems to show affection towards me or whether its deeper than that?? His family dont seem to notice, although friends have mentioned that they've noticed but my boyfirend blames it on me and cant seem to get it into his head that his dad flirts with me and not the other way round...anyone help with how i approach this?
2006-10-17 11:08:23 · 22 answers · asked by static_lullaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to let him know straight up that you dont appreciate it. If your boyfriend cant stand behind you on this issue, then you need to drop him because he will probably end up being a pervert just like his father. If you let this behavior continue, then you deserve it. You are not some little helpless girl. You are 19 so stand up and demand respect.
2006-10-17 11:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps he doesn't realise how he's making you feel.
No offence, but most men fall for a bit of flattery. And your genuine politeness has been misinterrupted. You may just have to bite the bullet and tell him.
You could make it sound like a joke ' That almost sounds as if you were flirting with me. Thank god I know you wouldn't, you're my boyfriends dad. That would be disgusting'.
It may seem a bit harsh but it gets the point across and you're feelings are what counts here.
Good luck
2006-10-17 14:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by becci 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's only awkward for you and he hasn't tried anything beyond flirting (like no touching), I would just avoid being alone with him, make an excuse like you have to use the bathroom. It's too bad that your bf doesn't believe you, but that would be hard to accept imagine if he said that about your mom. If his dad ever tries anything or it continues and you feel more uncomfortable talk to your bf again if he still doesn't listen then do you really want to be stuck in that situation forever, you bf is supposed to listen to you.
2006-10-17 11:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by Pineapple 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah, so you've already accepted the old andropause trick, it rarely fails if he's priming you for the even older "but for someone so young you unerstand me so much better then the wife" Unless he's a total ******* he knows he's sailing too close to the wind but up to the point his wife and son notice it ,its exciting and he might just get away with it , ... BUT ..if they do, us semi centenarians have got enough tricks up our sleves to convince everyone around us that its all your fault and he's been discouraging you from the start. Sorry guys, i may have betrayed all us menfolk tonight but I need a bit of good karma at the moment . Tell him you find his flirting distasteful and how dishonourable it is , to have such little respect for his wife and son. Twist the knife .. you've done no wrong....he'll back off if put the guilt on him, Good Luck
2006-10-17 15:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by Grey Area 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be all over your boyfriend on front of him, then say how happy you are with him, how you love him and you're happy together. Then glancing at his dad if you can do it subtle like, say that someone older keeps cracking on to you and it makes you feel bad because you're taken and they're married and you are so not interested in him.
2006-10-17 11:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by devilishly.naughty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He isn't ready to commit to a steady relationship, baby or not. You will have to find the guts to take your child and leave. Make sure you will get child support right away. The longer you stay with him the harder it will be to break free. Don't use the child as an excuse to stay. Millions of kids have been through a break up and have been just fine.
2016-03-18 21:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend if he doesn't believe make a fuss when his dad is doing it. OR just get rid of the boyfriend. Like father like son so they say.
2006-10-17 11:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he doesn't stop that u will have a word with his wife& if that doesn't stop him next time he does it say right I;ve had enough of this i have no choice im sorry but its got 2 stop so im going in 2 tell ur wife.& in front of him walk away pretened 2 go & see his wife hopefully he will follow u 2 say sorry & that he will stop,& never do it again.
2006-10-17 11:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by jackie c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your b/f is blaming you then he's alredy made his choice as to where his loyalties lay ( now and in the future ) you'v got no chance here he's spineless , dump him and move on
2006-10-17 18:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by nicemanvery 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always feel awkward when I am alone in company with my Sons girlfriend. Its a strange situation, but one that I hope i would be over after 5 years.
maybe he is just getting used to you and being more relaxed in your company.
2006-10-17 11:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋