* We've been together for One and a half years
* We're both Seniors in High School and will be 18 in a few months
* He's leaving for the Army in August and I'm going to a 4-yr College
* I know he's planning on proposing towards the end of the year when we'll both be 18
* We're not planning on a wedding until several years from now
(Maybe about 3 yrs)
2006-10-17 11:01:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i think it might be a little to early however you guys can wait a bit longer. It will be harder on your future when you get married in your early 20s.
trisha
2006-10-17 11:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's fine to get engaged after one and a half years since you're setting the weddig for several years later.
However, unfortunately for you guys, the likelihood of your relationship surviving through being in completely different worlds for the next four years is very low.
It is very difficult and uncommon even for a 4-year college male graduate to marry a non-college educated woman. The reverse, as in your case, is almost doomed from the start.
2006-10-17 18:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by the all knowing 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
from personal experience close to yours well sort of:
we were together 2 years before getting engaged. we were both about to go to college and got engaged. everyone freaked out about it. we stayed the course and did as we had planned. we both graduated from college and got married a year later. yes it was a long engagement but we were showing we were committed to the idea of getting married.
we got married and have been married almost 2 years (together for 8)
get your education and then get married
2006-10-25 14:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to what others say, as long as you really love him and are willing to wait (trust me, it's going to be hard when he's away) there's nothing wrong with marrying your high school sweetheart. My fiancee and I met/started dating our sophomore year in high school, and we're college juniors now. We are definitely getting married, but I requested that we not have a long (over a year) engagement. It really just depends on how long you're willing to wait as an engaged woman. The fact that you're waiting 3 years will give you plenty of time...so good luck!
2006-10-18 15:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by missyann 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have to say it is way too soon. One and a half years might seem like a long time to you now, but it really isn't. IMHO, you are both too young for a serious relationship in the first place. You are about to go off to college...I say why limit yourself? Do you have any idea what military guys do?
This might sound harsh, but don't tie yourself down. It's time to call things off. If you hook after school/military, then give it a few years and at least live with eachother or a few years before making such a commitment. Remember, it's only your first marriage once.
2006-10-17 18:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by boredperv 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Honey it's all up to you. Is it too soon for you? To be honest with you I don't know to many people who stuck with the same person all through college. I will also limit you college experience.... personally I won't be ready. Heck, I am 29 and I am finally ready!! But everyone is different. College is a big life change and you need to decide if you want to be engaged or do you want to see what life has to offer.......
If your not ready, tell him your not ready.... don't let him make a fool out of himself. And remember- you would be getting married and still have a year of college and he would still have a year of service?? Maybe you should talk to him and wait until after school.
2006-10-17 18:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
love doesn't have a number to it. it has to do with a maturity thing. if u and him feel like this is the right thing to do then go for it.
i am in the same situation only thing is that i am 24, graduated form college, and my man is 32, into construction. we have been talking about getting married but we have been together for 1 yr and 2 months. we are both mature and responsible adults.
go for what u want before someone else snatch him up.
2006-10-17 20:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by TamLuv2406 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should really just do what feels right for both of you. If you both love each other enough it will work out for the two of you. Love is a very strong thing.
2006-10-17 18:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by rainydayislandgirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wish you lots of luck on this but do you really think he will be faithful while he is in the army, more then likely he will be in iraq right after he gets done with his traning. You 2 need to have a long heart to heart talk
2006-10-17 18:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like a child's play to me... But I'm sure you have heard it before. At my age, I would not be getting engaged to a person who would be going away... Out of sight - out of mind. If he came back and we still thought it was a good idea - I would consider it then. But I'm a bit jaded, I admit.
2006-10-17 19:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Now, that's using the ol' noodle and sounds like a great plan to me! Y'all stick with that one...just don't renege and do it sooner.
2006-10-22 21:52:03 · answer #11 · answered by arkedthecovenant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋