been noticing his first and last name everywhere. I have been debating with myself whether or not to look him up to get the dreams to stop. I believe I must have some unresolved issues with him and thats why I keep thinking about him. I also am at the end of a 14 year marriage so I wonder if I am just re-acting from that relationship ending (it's ending on good terms). What do you think? If I contact him, will I just be "stirring the pot" and creating drama? I just want to find a way to have peace of mind instead of constantly daydreaming.
2006-10-17 10:55:02 · 7 answers · asked by Semi-charmed 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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We ALL want to feel love in our hearts.
We are driven to find it, somewhere somehow.
You are ending a love, and you are grieving.
In this process your mind is looking for solutions to end this pain. Your mind is returning to a time it remembers the good times, and good love.
But wait...REALITY check:
You broke up with your former love for a REASON...something went wrong there too.
So, just "deal with" the current grieving stages you are going through...
It is NOT time to go back to lost loves at all.
THIS IS THE TIME for you to find the greatest love you will ever discover...and that is...
...finding the one person that you should love the most, in the right way: Yourself.
Only YOU can run your life the way that is best for you. Find out what that is. Find out what YOU really like and want. You can't do that while you are in a relationship with someone else.
You need some time alone, to reflect, to discover...
and then the next time
AFTER
you really know Yourself better
You will select a totally different kind of relationship, because YOU will be different.
You will be sure of what you want, and who you are, and what is best suited for YOU.
Take it slow, cry some tears, get through the grieving, and then get on with the business of living a good life where you make the decisions for you, as your own best-friend...the best decisions that will make you happy.
This can be the best time, and the most important time in your life...more than you realize right now. Do this right ... do it for yourself.
stw
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2006-10-17 11:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learned from experience that an ex is an ex for a good reason. I went back with an ex boyfriend and found out it was a huge mistake. Spare yourself a lot of pain, don't look him up. Instead, find a new relationship that will make you happy. You are probably thinking about the past relationship because of your marriage ending.
2006-10-17 18:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by cee cee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice.....finish the business of ending your marriage and leave this "dream" guy alone.
Take about a year to regroup and heal...spend some time reflecting on what happened in your marriage...how you're not the same person you were 14 years ago....what you've learned....what you want you life to be now. Go slow.
You're looking in the past for happiness and it's not where you're going to find it.
2006-10-17 18:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow i thought i was the only one to do that. haha i am not really sure what u could do i mean contacting them could possibly help with the dreams. i dont think you would be stirring the pot or causing drama just keep the dreams a sercret, to him maybe you just need to contact him for your own personal sake.
2006-10-17 17:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by hines555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS DREAMING IS COMEING FROM YOUR BRAIN...IT MAY BE A GOOD IDEA TO TRY TO LOOK HIM UP SINCE YOUR IN A SEPERATE SITUATION., COULD BE SOMETHING TO IT...DREAMS HAVE OFTEN COME TRUE...WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO LOSE....GOOD LUCK ...IT WILL TAKE SOME DOING OF COURSE....BUT TIME IS ON YOUR SIDE.
2006-10-17 18:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by TINAORLAND 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spirita explains your dreams
Visit http://spirita.blogspot.com/ and post your question as a comment. You'll get your answer shortly
2006-10-20 09:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by Spirita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really
2006-10-17 17:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Knight H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋