Why do I find older men so much more attractive then men my own age?

Question

Im a 19 year old student and i have always fancied much older men. The oldest man i have been with is 32 and have experimented with older than that.I dont know what it is about them and there is no reason for this, many people have said it was something to do with a father figure but i have luckily been brought up in a very happy home with loving parents who are very happy together.

It isnt money or better sex so i was wondering whether anyone was in the same situation and whether i should look for a way to stop this feelings and concentrate on men my own age or at least not any older than 10 years older.

Im not interested in whether people dont like it or think it is "sick" or whatever, im just interested in any psychological factors that could show a point where i could start thinking of why i find older men so much more attractive.The oldest i fancy is 54 and youngest was 28 so i have no idea where to start... can anyone help or explain this??

Answer 1

You are probably attracted to the fact that older men are more mature and more stable than men your own age.

Answer 2

Although you discount the father figure thing, you should maybe explore that a little further as it could be that you love your dad very much and wish to emulate your relationship with him in your own relationships (not in a nasty way, in an intellectual and emotional way). Also, there could be safety in it for - many older men are settled in relationships and you could be looking for partner who adores you, but doesnt want to take it to a serious level. There may appear to be safety in that situation for you. You may have some issues of underlying lack of confidence, which an older man could boost in you because he will naturally care for you as part of his relationship with you.

There is also the possibility that you just like older men - nothing wrong with that. They are much more rewarding in almost every dimension of a relationship. Generally.

Answer 3

Hey Static L..
Just think when you' re 40- something, they WILL BE 50 or 60 something...and good sex ain't happening 'round that time hon! And grey hairs will appear places u never dreamed of...

And whatever u do , DON'T contact MITCH PIER777 whatever...

I m also interested in the psychological aspect of human relations...this is wht i've learned from Greek/Roman mythology...

An older man is seeking your "innocense". They have wasted or used theirs up. They want to "recapture" it by taking yours. The "father figure" thing is the "trust" that u place in a man of that age....it's what he is doing with that trust that sometimes gets twisted.

My ex who was 10 years older than me..i asked him :y do men go 4 such younger ladies....he said they do not want the "responsibility" of life w/ an equal partner...i thought that was enlightning....so don't forget it.

You r NOT equally matched when u r very young...it automatically puts him in a position of power over u. Youth/Beauty is a power that very few grasp....so don't throw it away.

Keep in mind, younger woman/ older man is normal..don't fret over that. But there is a classic "Hitchcock" episode where the younger woman was lured in by the gifts & attention that the older, rich man gave to her...of course he leaves this earth way b-4 u will....then all your left with is "things"....then u become that which u never thought u would b....i think they r called "cougors" ? what an awful name huh??

So match up w/ someone closer to your age...no more than 5-6 years honey...experience "life's stages" at the same time, at the same pace.

Answer 4

It is not sick or anything. But - if you could be honest with yourself and list all the traits of your father you love and all those you hate (will not work if you are not honest and you can destroy the list so you can be honest) you will find that you are searching for a father figure in that the older men you really like are so close to being your father it will be scary. As well it should be as you don't wany a daddy, you really want and need a partner. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

I am 21, and for the longest time I have always been attracted to older men (up to 10 years). I have read into this type of situation and it could be because we lack a stable father figure in our life, or that we did lack one in our childhood. Now, if your 15 going for a 25-30 year old this could be a very bad situation, but if you are odler and mature and can think like an adult, it's not bad to be attracted to older men, just keep in mind that when your 40-something they will be 50 or 60 somethin. =)

Answer 6

Well I don't know why but older men do generally have more experience. Both life experience and sexually. We normally are mroe attentive to our female companion and pick up quicker on likes and dislikes. Just a thought.

Well I am 30, so if any younger ladies fancy an older man, let me know :-)

Answer 7

im 47 few miles on the clock but can still open the throttle when i need too does that help my phone no is?????????????????
only kidding if your happy with the choices you make then id say go for it enjoy yourself and sod anyone who thinks its wierd or sick it takes all kinds of people to make the world go around and all kinds of tastes too if its older men younger women then who the hell has the right to judge if your happy then there should not be a problem and if certain people do have a problem then its theirs not yours be happy have fun lifes to short go for it girl and all the best.x

Answer 8

I fell in love with a guy for the first time when I was nineteen and he was an older man in his late thirties. The family totally disapproved. Anyhow, I think the psychological reasoning lies with the gender. Most females mature faster than males. You are probably more in tune mentally with an older man than your younger counterparts. And no, it isn't disgusting. You love who you love.

Answer 9

They say, age doesn't matter. Regardless of wheter you're younger or older than your partner, it's the feeling that counts most. If you both love each other, there would be no problem. Both of you, I'm sure, are willing to adjust. It's a matter of "give and take" system.

Answer 10

Were you raised without a father? Alot of younger women go for older men for that reason. I am 49, attractive, and fit and I like younger women. Look me up sometime if ya wanna chat.