2006-10-17 10:51:12 · 6 answers · asked by steelerfanhw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just walk over to her and start talking to her like she were a cool guy that you wanted to meet (she's a human being, after all, so treat her like one). Most guys screw up with girls because they think of her as a goddess or something, and they psych themselves out before they even talk to her.
Self-confidence and humor are the two things that most women say that they are looking for in a man. BTW, do not make comments about her body, or how pretty she is, because that sounds creepy coming from a stranger (Besides, pretty girls get told by guys about a hundred times a day how pretty she is -- you don't want to sound just like every other creep who has been trying to get into her pants). And make sure that you keep eye contact (if you get shy and start to look down at the floor (or her body) like most guys do, she will think that you are looking at her boobs and get offended).
By the way, if you seem needy, overly shy, too awkward, or too nervous around people, then they will feel hesitant about speaking to you because they will feel like you are a person who is easily offended, and they will feel nervous talking to you. Approach people with a self-confident smile that implies that you already know that they will like you, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy since your positive attitude will be catching. Make sure that you make consistent eye contact, because that implies interest in the other person (always flattering), and it implies self-confidence (the opposite of fearful & needy). Keep talking to different people, and you will soon become better at it. You will soon feel confident, since you will realize that it is not really all that difficult.
BTW, if you find yourself staring at a cute girl, and she looks up and sees you looking at her, do NOT do what most guys do; most guys in this situation will get shy and immediately look AWAY. If you read girls responses on Y!A, you will notice that this freaks girls out. If she sees you, ALWAYS maintain eye contact no matter how scary it seems, until SHE looks away. This makes you look confident. After that, do not keep looking at her. Ignore her and go talk to other people. She will probably come over and talk to you in order to see what's up.
Also, when you are talking to a girl, and you feel too shy to maintain eye contact, make sure that you look away by moving your eyes horizontally across the room as if you were looking for someone else. Do NOT look down, like most shy guys do (she will think that you are looking at her boobs, and get offended). If you do accidentally offend someone, don't be so apologetic about it that you look line a wimp (in the long run, women hate that). Just calmly say that you are sorry once and if she cannot drop it, then either tell her to drop it, or else find someone else to talk to.
Oh yea, try to develop a sense of humor. You want to come across as "fun", but don't crack jokes so much that you seem "goofy". Anything can be overdone. This may seem counter-initiative, but when you talk to a girl, try opening with a joke about something that she is wearing, doing, or looking at. Make fun of her a little. As long as it is funny, you will look confident for taking a risk by saying something that might possibly be offensive (she is unsure), and you will also seem fun for making her laugh. If she gets upset, just look at her calmly an say, it was only a joke.
2006-10-17 11:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 21:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you move your limbs and or mouth
2006-10-17 10:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly Bundy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DONT SEND HER A LETTER
ITS TOO FORWARD
I DID IT BEFORE AND TRUST ME!!! IT RUINS YOUR RELATIONSHIP AS A FRIEND
2006-10-17 10:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
one most flirt first
2006-10-17 10:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO HER AND ASK HER OUT.
2006-10-17 10:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by gm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋