I've been dating my boyfriend for only two months, and we couldn't be any happier. But lately, I've been thinking about this guy that I used to like. I haven't seen him in two years, but I keep on imagining what would it be like if I was dating him. I don't understand, I love my bf, but why am I thinking about this guy? I'm going to probably see this guy in a week, and I dunno what to do, what if I start to like him again? HELP!
2006-10-17 10:43:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you're really SURE you love your current bf (and other answerers are right to question this, it's just a matter of too little time) then perhaps this is just a case of cold feet, of feeling a little afraid of having such serious feelings so quickly. Seek out the advice of someone you consider wise, preferably a wise someone who knows both you and the bf, and ask them for a rational, non-emotion-based assessment of the bf. If they think he is a good match for you, and that he has feelings for you, then stick with the current bf and ride this out. If they tell you that they aren't sure about the relationship working out, take that seriously and go looking for someone else--and not the ex-crush, either! You will never move forward if you keep going back to the past, so once an ex, always an ex should be the rule.
2006-10-17 10:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by explorationredwing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well two months isnt a long time first off.... But two months with your bf is more time being spent in a relationship then a guy you just have a crush on. You have to think of something here.... 1.) your imagining what it would be like.... meaning that you dont know what its like yet cuz you have dated him and if the only reason your attracted to your crush is because hes physically attractive then your making a mistake.... I dated a girl who i crushed on and was very pretty.... turns out she was a high maintence cry baby who was very selfish and had a bigger ego then your ***. Looks can be deceiving.... if your b/f treats you good and is faithfull stick with him.
2006-10-17 10:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by Synkor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are really in with love your boyfriend. You've only been dating him for two months. With the exception of some rare cases it is very difficult to really be in love someone after only two months. You think your in love but your not really in love. If you were in love you wouldn't be having these sort of thoughts. You need to slow down with your boyfriend stop it with all this love talk after only two months. You are going to have to make a decision soon. I would recommend that if you are seriously having these thoughts that you break up with your boyfriend or take a "break," to date other people. These thoughts are not going to go away, it is better to deal with it right away before things continue to escalate.
2006-10-17 10:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by acvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you just starting dating this new guy, so you really don't love him it's more like a strong like! and what was so good with the old boyfriend that made you too go in different ways? that what you should be thinking about and then you will know what to do!
2006-10-17 10:55:00 · answer #4 · answered by tee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the word like mixed up with the word love.If you`ve been with your boyfriend for two mouths and your mined is two years in the past,you just got the hots for some one. Sounds like somebody is about to *^%*$# when that person gets here
2006-10-17 10:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you don't love your bf... you've been together 2 months!
If your thinking of this other guy then ya you want him... drop your current bf and go give this new guy some lovin. Least you will be happy then and not thinking about what it would be like without him.
2006-10-17 10:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by travis R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO THIS is what you do when you see this other boy see which one you like better and that is the one you should pick but make shire the other boy likes you.
2006-10-17 11:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by allycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know who you want better than we do.
don't you?
.
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I had a similar but more involved situation more than 20 years ago.
I followed my word
Not
my heart.
.
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from the results of this experience so far, I've learned to:
NOT give my word
and
to follow my heart.
.:
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my you choose well.
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.
2006-10-17 10:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well......maybe you should dump your bf and go out w/that guy u like!
2006-10-17 10:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by Marci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well follow your gut on who u want
2006-10-17 10:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋