About 4 years ago I was dating this girl on and off (we remained friends with benefits the whole time). The last night we saw eachother I told her I wanted to be serious and she basically said no... Anyway she got married to some other dude within like 2 weeks of our last date and she moved with him accross the country..... Well now she's back living in my city and we have been talking about our past quite alot lately (she's still married but really not happy about it). We both have admitted to eachother that we think about eachother alot. Her husband is a lazy do nothing and she is considering a seperation. My question is ... what do i do? Do i sit by and wait and see what happens or should I be even talking to her? Do I tell her to leave him?
Right now i'm just really having these feelings that she moved back here because of me.. (it was her decision to move back from accross the country)...
2006-10-17 10:41:21 · 1 answers · asked by travis R 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Having been on both sides of that situation I know the feeling. You might want to weigh up whether it's true love/ a big deal or just the both of you feeling frisky after a long dry spell...
I wouldn't presume to advise you whether to have an affair or not - that's up to you and her - but it would be good to understand the basis on which you are doing it. Friends w/ benefits or potential partners for life? If she leaves her husband because of you, what would you do?
Maybe don't pressure her to do anything on your behalf - if anything goes wrong later, it's always a source of potential guilt.
Just be clear and honest with her.
2006-10-17 10:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by JM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋