it's not fair because i didnt get a big 18th birthday or a car..both of my older sister's get everything..they had their 18th birthdays and got a bmw and a mercedes. but my mom recently got cancer so we're low on money. i complain sometimes but i feel bad. am i wrong??
2006-10-17 10:21:12 · 10 answers · asked by April 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you my dear are the most selfish being i heard from in a very long time. you are 18 ,get job help your mom with the money situation. and maybe you can save up for your own car. i am so sad for you. grow up please before it is to late and help your mom as much as possible.you will be blessed in the long run.
2006-10-17 10:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is completely normal to feel some jealousy. It is hard when you missed out on stuff your siblings got. It is hard when things just don't go our way. Now is the time to try to understand the best you can and focus on your Mom. You are still young and so people shouldn't expect you to have the same understanding as an adult that has already been thru so much in life. I wish your Mom the best and hope she gets better soon. I am sure that when your Mom gets better she will make it up to you to be fair with your sisters. I imagine your Mom already feels bad about it, but there is nothing that she can do, but to think about herself right now. If you are really needing a vehicle have you thought about working and getting one yourself?
2006-10-17 10:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound old enough to even drive...and yes, you are wrong. My oldest got her grandmother's old car, and is now in college out of state-- paying her own way.
My next has the same old car, with 222,000 miles on it, and will keep driving it until she chooses to buy herself another car.
I have two others coming up that will most likely drive the same car, or one similar!
None of my kids ever had a 'big birthday' either. We always had family and maybe a friend or two over.
I think that you have a good chance, as the one poster mentioned, to develop a stronger character and value system for yourself than your sisters had.
Get outside yourself and think of what you can do for someone else, rather than what they can do for you.
2006-10-18 03:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by ewema 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girl also wanted to spend $400 bucks on PS3 cus I told her one time how I would really like one. It accidentally slip and she said she was looking for one. I told her the same thing your boyfriend told you. I knew that I wasn't going to play with it so much and it wouldn't it have been worth all that money. I would have felt so guilty if she did spend that much money on me. Well she got me a really nice watch instead and spent about $150 on it. I like it better than if I would have gotten the PS3. I probably would have felt too guilty to play it comfortably. I still want a PS3 but I'm glad my girl got me a watch. Hope this helps!
2016-03-28 13:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this seems unfair, but life is unfair. I even feel bad for you. You had reason to expect a car for your 18th birthday, and got nothing. Please try to be understanding though, your mom has cancer and this is not a time to be focused on you and what you didn't get. Try to continue to be unselfish and focus on mom and praying that she gets better. I will pray for her too.
2006-10-17 10:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by PRL8268 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life's not fair. Welcome to the real world. Not getting a car is not something to be upset over when your mother could be dying. When you complain to her she is probably ashamed that you are so selfish, but despite that, she probably feels bad about it because it's not like she doesn't want to provide those things for you, but she just can't and you know that and you have to get over it.
2006-10-17 10:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really should feel bad about complaining-ur mom has cancer and shes not fussing about not having parties(well im guessing) enjoy the time u have w/ ur mom. treat her out for dinner for just the 2 of u for ur bday. ur family is having a really tough time and ur complaing about a party-thats not right. but dont worry eventually ur family will make up for what u missed out on, wheter its ur 21st bday, or 30th. just concentrate on ur mom for now, eventually everything will fall into place, i understand u had high hopes
2006-10-17 10:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by <333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the luckiest one of your siblings. Wake up.
While they had nothing to grow their personal selves, and got everything they needed to grow lax and limp, your time sees you in a situation in which your best can come out and shine.
You are the one able to best help your mother in her time of need. You can work through this the best you can and forge yourself into a better and more brilliant person.
Consider yourself more fortunate than your sisters and help your mother out to the utmost.
2006-10-17 16:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by MotorCityMadman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
although its hurtful that you didn't get your car or big party you need to look at the big picture and that is your mom has CANCER that has to be more important to you then material things if not then yes you should feel bad
2006-10-17 10:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If life were fair, your mother wouldn't have cancer. GROW UP!!
2006-10-17 12:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋