I HAVE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR 5 YEARS I HAVE TOLD HIM THAT ITS TIME TO MOVE ON BUT HE HASETATSE THE QUIESTION I TOLD HIM I WANT TO GET MARRIED HE ALL WAYS SAY GIVE HIM TIME ITS BEEN 5 YEARS.
2006-10-17 10:16:17 · 16 answers · asked by emily_noll2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What is his opinion on marriage in general. I have had three relationships, one for 13 years, and two for over 8 years, and never been married. I don't agree with marriage.
I think marriage is a very good institution, but who wants to spend the rest of their life in an institution?
Are you living together.
If not, then suggest that you do.
If you are, then you are married in common law anyway.
What difference does a piece of paper make?
2006-10-17 10:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words: Check Spelling. ;)
That having been said, of course it's time to move on! The two of you obviously want different things. If you are not willing to wait for him to come around-and you need to accept the fact too that he may NEVER be on the same page as you-then you need to find someone who is on the same page as you as far as what you want in a relationship and what you want for your future.
What if the roles were reversed? What if he were asking if it was time for him to move on because his girlfriend keeps bugging him to get married and he doesn't want to? Would you expect him to move on and find someone who is happy with the same level of commitment he's comfortable with or would you expect him to do all he could to convinve you that marriage was not the way to go and that you really shouldn't want to get married? No. Just like you can't make someone not want something they do want, you can't make someone want something they don't want. You have to leave it alone and move on.
2006-10-17 17:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by elk312 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is very clear, he is not ready and it sounds like it might not happen in the near future.
If you are looking for a committed and long relationship like marriage, then you should find someone who feels the same.
Don't try to push someone into marriage, it could be a disaster.
If he hasn't asked you after 5 years and you are very settled in a good job and you have your priorities straight, he isn't going to ask you now.
Look elsewhere, this is a immature boy and not ready for the things you want.
2006-10-17 17:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men sometimes have a hard time making that commitment I have known couples who have been together for 15 yrs they got married and stayed together for only 6 months and so it goes I wish you luck but I will say move on soon or your life is never going to change,,Try and set a date make dinner and bring it up slowly and be gentle and loving and see where it goes ,,he loves you your together 5yrs but try to tell HIM you want to build a life together be good and lots of luck to both of you sureilll
2006-10-17 17:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, how old are you? I was with my BF for 6 years before we got married, but i wouldn't of had it any other way. we waited until we were both out of college and we had a stable income. Do you think that you're financially ready? maybe your BF is just thinking of all of the huge expenses to go along with marriage, a house, and kids.
I would try and talk to him about it. if he won't talk to you about when he's planning on getting married, then maybe he's not mature enough to go that far and you should think long and hard about staying with him.
on the other hand, maybe his intentions are to get married, but he's just unsure if he's ready. you should really try to sit down and talk to him without attacking him about marrying you.
2006-10-17 17:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by christina k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been with mine for 7 3/4 yrs and when he told me it will be awhile before we say I do. To me that made me feel wasted and nasty. So move on baby and don't waste any more of ur time. He may have some one else in mind and just hangin on to u incase he don't get her. U may just be his sex doll and house keeper. I think thats what I was to my ex. but that only lasted 4 months.. thank goodness.
2006-10-17 17:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by datslife_huh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
evaluate this 5 years relationship you are in. if you think he's the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with then i'll suggest that you sit down with him to have a serious talk/ discussion. try to find out why is he taking such a long time and what else that he needs to accomplish in life before settling down. listen to him from his perspective and don't have any ill feeling towards it. if it's something that both of you can accomplish together before settling down then at least it gives both of you a peaceful mind in the future. the important thing is knowing the root of his action and behaviour.
if he's unwilling to put the act together and discuss this than it's time for you to decide what's best for yourself and what life would you really want for yourself.
2006-10-17 17:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by - 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if you dont' have a plan to get married in the next year or so then your moving on. If your young then I can see him being realistic about it and not wanting to get married.
2006-10-17 17:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should get this book called 'His just isnt that into you" its very handy, i think you should make him choice, u cant wait around forever!! ur not getting any younger and if he doesnt know u after 5 years another 5 years wont do the trick!
good luck!
2006-10-17 17:20:15 · answer #9 · answered by Simone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't made the jump in five years, he never will. If you want someone to make a real commitment to you, it's time to go & find him.
2006-10-17 17:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by Celt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋