I slept with a girl from work when i was drunk, now she won't leave me alone. Any ideas?

Question

And i am her supervisor. How do i tell her that she has no chance of it ever being a relationhip as i dont really remember how it happened?

Answer 1

YOU: "did you regret the other night?"

HER: "no"

YOU:"i did,goodbye"!

Answer 2

Hi well i think you asked for it. You should of been more responsible with work collegues and your drinking. I think you should just try and let her down gently and not be pathetic like you are being now. How do you think she is going to feel. Just agree to go out with her on a date and tell her before the date begins that you want to be just friends and what ever happend was because you were stupidly drunk and you didnt mean to sleep with her and you dont remember what happend and you dont want to start a relationship with her as it was just out of drukeness. So then you can enjoy the meal knowing she knows. But it still doesnt mean she will leave you alone. As next time you get drunk around her you may do it again. Either drink more wisely or suffer the consequences. Just hope she doesnt tell you she pregnant yet, as anything could of happened as you dont remember anything.

Answer 3

Your in deep crap; If you dont' want a relationship and she does, your going to hurt her big time no matter what she does. I can see her going to the HR department making a ton of accusations and even without proof, you can lose your job. Take her out for coffee after work and say that it was a mistake and that you really appreciate her friendship and you dont' want it to mess up your work which it probably will.

This,"I don't remember what happened but I do remember sleeping together doesn't cut it". You better remember because she can make up stuff if she feels you used her.

I've been in this situation and eventually I left because the pressure was too much. It was rough. Lawsuits are happening all of the time.

You could really lose your job and your reputation over this and that's scary; do not ignore her or treat her differently. Be the same; kind and considerate, but DONT' spend time with her outside of work after you talk to her. Good luck; you are going to need it.

Answer 4

Well she can get you fired for having relations with her so if you want to do it the easy way then invite her out to dinner and explain to her that it would never work, Tell her this is why, You just got out of a bad relationship and you need your time and space you two can be friends but nothing more and tell you you may be relocating soon and have no desire to start something here. Soon the rumors about you leaving will start and just tell everyone the desision has not been made yet but tell your supervisor co-workers that its a rumor. Trust me she will realize that its all just not worth it and then your free! Godd luck and I hope shes not a stalker

Answer 5

Let her know first off that you were drunk. Remind her that you both could loose your jobs for this. Let her know that your sorry for leading her on to believe that you are interested. If she doesn't lay off, do the honorable thing. Request a transfer to a different location. And if your supervisor asks, tell him/her the truth.
"I did a dumb thing the other night. I got drunk and I ended up waking up in bed with one of my team-members. I don't remember how or why. Unfortunately, I sent some wrong signals and she is nagging me about it. I've told her the truth and now I am requesting a transfer so I don't need to worry it affecting my job or this company's reputation."
(If you keep mentioning that you are putting the company's reputation and work standards before yourself, they may be more apt to work with you. If you tell them you want to transfer to get away from the other lady, they might fire you instead.)

Also, for future events, don't get that drunk. It's okay to drink. But as it goes for everything, IN MODERATION.
Be careful and good luck

Answer 6

Not a very smart thing to do Instine. To start with, the #1 rule is to never mix playing with work. You are looking for trouble. Be honest. Tell her that you think she is fun to hang out with but that are not looking for a relationship right now. Don't be a jerk to her like some guys are. Break it to her gentley but firmly. You were drunk and lead her to believe something that wasn't. She has probably been eyeing you for some time so keep her feelings in mind because what comes around goes around and that hurts. Good luck from texas

Answer 7

You need some serious help before you end up with illegitimate kids and standing in the unemployment line for sexual harassment. You better smooth things over with her and DO NOT tell her you were too drunk to remember I promise it will piss her off royally!!!

Answer 8

Be honest. Make it out that you are really sorry for the confusion. Tell her that you think she's great but at the moment you are not interested in any type of relationship.
If she still bothering you tell her that you are bi and that it happened during a break from your boyfriend!

Answer 9

First of all you need to be careful with girls and the way you turn them down...some of them are psychotic and will pull some **** on you and say u did things when you didn't. Be nice and gently explain to her that it was something that shouldn't have happened, and that you would like to remain friends but thats as far as the relationship will go.....good luck with this one buddy

Answer 10

Don't drink so much. You have to tell her that it was a mistake. She'll then back off. Just pay attention to what you're doing next time. You shouldn't ever hook up with someone you work with that you don't intend on staying with.

Answer 11

As a supervisor you should know better.Drunkeness is no excuse, deal with it like a man and face up to your problems.