The timing is so bad it makes me almost believe that fate is out to stop me being happy or something! I just met this beautiful girl on the bus home from work this evening. She seems so lovely and I really enjoyed chatting to her. She lives really close to me and she's given me her phone number and email address and says she'll come out with me for a drink. I will certainly ask her out very soon. But also tonight I find out that another girl who I was in love with once and haven't heard from for TEN years has phoned up today where I used to live and says she wants me to contact her again to meet up for a school reunion. The dilemna for me is that I don't even want to meet my old girlfriend and risk feeling old emotions. I want to focus on this new girl I've met. However the old girlfriend is going to think I'm a bit weird and cold if I say to her no I don't want to meet up with her and the other old school friends again. Thanks for patiently reading this. What would you do please?
2006-10-17 10:07:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not to punish the chick from high school, but if she hasnt called you in ten years but obviously knew how to get a hold of you, pass on her. you can tell her maybe you can meet up some other time. there's no reason for you to jump up and run to her when she waits for ten years to contact you. besides you don't know if there will be any connection.
the chick from the bus though is someone you have obviously connected with and she's willing to give you a shot.
basically, i think you should go for the chick who's digging the guy you are now. you can't try to revive a past relationship based on the guy you used to be. that's not who you are anymore.
good luck to you either way you choose to go!
2006-10-17 10:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only advice to you is to NOT meet with the old girlfriend. Nothing good can come from it, just remember, there is a reason that the two of you are no longer together. You don't need to worry about coming off as cold or weird to an ex, she's your ex, you cannot just phone someone after 10 years and expect them to drop everything to meet you. She has an alterior motive for wanting to meet-for the love of god man, don't do it! Call the mysterious bus woman and take her out for a drink, see where that goes. It's probably going to be difficult to resist seeing the old girlfriend, stick to your guns, don't let her persuade you (women can be very manipulative-shocker, I know-if this woman is on a mission to reunite she won't pull any punches). Good luck, I hope everything works out for the best. New girl=good, old girl=BAD!
2006-10-17 17:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by sarahsmiles1222 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take my advice stop giving a damn what people think and live your life go out with the new one..and dont look back..phone the old girlfriend and tell her it will be a no show for u at the reunion..and would she still like to chat at times as friends...because u have met somone else.
2006-10-17 17:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex just wants to get friends together for your reunion, don't think of it as her wanting you back. Focus your heart to the girl you met on the bus. Always forward in life, never back.
2006-10-17 17:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her sorry but you moved on and you already made plans to go out of town that weekend with your new girl don't feel guilty over someone that has not talked to you in TEN yrs that makes no sense so enjoy your new love and let go of the old one
2006-10-17 17:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never fails murphys law. if it can happen it will at the most in opportune time. Go for both. Risk getting feelings and go out for a drink with the other girl (just dont ask the new girl what to do aboout your old girl)
its just a drink u might find out she eat her boogars or soemthing. so just go for the drink and meet up with th old one.
2006-10-17 17:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with the first chick, and ask if you can take a rain check on the reunion =)
2006-10-17 17:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by Nyki Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez dude, your ex is old freakin news. Maybe she can be a friend with privileges. Find out what the new girl has to offer already. Your old girlfriend can kiss you @&&.
2006-10-17 17:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by Eldude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely go out with the new girl, there is obviously a reason you and your old love are not together anymore, and who cares what she thinks about you...you haven't seen her in 10 years
2006-10-17 17:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you defitnitly don't want to hurt your friend,but if it puts your new relationship at risk,you dont wanna do it trust me.to let her know that you aren't interested you should let her meet your new love.after that if she doesn't contact then she wasn't as loyal of a friend as you thought.
2006-10-17 17:11:38 · answer #10 · answered by beauty is skin deep!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋