How can I get her to leave me alone? She totally disrespects me all of the time and blames me for stuff that is not my fault.
2006-10-17 10:03:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sounds like my mom! move. i finally just picked up and left as far as i could get us. i am divorced, with a son. i married outside the church, and i was raped over a decade ago, ever since then i was the slut of the family. and she is mean, ruthless, liar, 2 faced woman.
you need to just pick up and leave. let her live her life the way she sees fit. but don't let her live your life.
you need to be around happy positive people.
live your life. you will make mistakes. everyone does. part of life. pick yourself back up and keep moving forward.
don't give her the satisfaction by staying there and letting her rip you to pieces verbally.
you need to leave and have a life - without her.
good luck.
2006-10-17 10:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by dragonsclaw27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are or where you, and she live, so it's hard to offer much, but I'll try.
If you're a minor and live at home, your best bet is to develop lots of outside interests that a parent would have a hard time saying "no" to - school clubs, groups, activities. The more you're there, the less you're at home - and you'll be developing new skills and friends, which will help bolster your self-esteem and counteract the negative stuff Mom says.
If you're an adult living on your own, then you practice avoidance, but it's easier. You limit your interaction. Call once in a while when you feel up to it. Say gently, but firmly, when you disagree, and refuse to be pulled into any drama. If she becomes disrespectful, you say you have to go, and you do it.
Here's the thing - you can't change her mind, and you're not responsible for what she thinks, or her happiness, or anything else except being courteous and honorable yourself. So you forgive Mom, who clearly is confused, and you put your attention on your own life. Good luck!
2006-10-17 10:36:09 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does she disrespect you? It would be easier if we knew because it might just be our grown up normal behavior. You need to try and look at things from her point of view and the fact that a lot of things she does just because she thinks it will keep you out of trouble. A lot that kids get blamed for is because you have done other simuliar stuff and so you are the first to get looked at. You need to try for a open relationship where you two can talk. It gets easier when you get old enough and no longer live at home. When she does something wrong try and talk with her in a calm discussion later about what you did not like and how it would have been nicer if she did........ . You must also show her more respect to get her to give you more. If you are more open to her about things that are going on in your life she will have less need to pry.
2006-10-17 10:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a mother and I hate hearing things like that.
Have you tried sitting with your mom and really talking with her and finding out why she feels that you are doing so bad. I mean really listen to her and think about what she is saying so that you can understand her. Then let her know how you feel that you arent getting any respect from her... by the way, you have to give respect if you want it returned...
Communication between children and their parents is the key to understanding. Perhaps asking her to have a soda with you or going somewhere with you so that you may talk away from anyone at home. It helps when you both have an open mind to the discussion and you may find that there is somethings you both can change or do that will make it easier for the both of you to understand each other without fighting or yelling at one another.
I have five children and make it a point to listen to them and see that they understand what I am saying also. It makes our lives easier and we all get the respect we deserve as a family.
I wish you luck my friend....
2006-10-17 10:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is such a classic problem for women I think...I have the same issues with my mom and it hasn't gotten better in my adult years. I have set some boundries with her though and realized that I can't change her behavior but I can change what I allow to bother me. I look at the source and realize that she is loving me the best way she knows how, which actually makes me feel badly for her. Yet I don't feel guilty and I don't allow her to make me feel bad anymore. Take charge and move on...she won't change....
2006-10-17 10:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have the same problem with mine, till I sit down and had a very serious talk. I told her that if she keeps of treating me that bad i was going to leave the house. I might it be a little bad but never to the point that she could treat me lile sh...... Well u also have to look from her point of view if there is any, maybe there is somenthing upseting her. Try to find out whats her problem and go from there.Have u try talking to her?.
2006-10-17 10:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by Tani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move 1500 miles away. My mother has called me a total of 3 times in two years since I moved away! Hallelujah! It was the best thing I ever did in my life!
2006-10-17 10:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe talk to her as somtimes it is hard on a parent to open up to teenagers especially when your in the arguement stages of you relationship, I know I have 3 teenages from 19yrs - 14yrs, and somtimes when we talk about what is actually wrong everything doesn't seem as bad as we thought.
Good Luck and hope everything works out for you both.
2006-10-17 10:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by maorigirlinoz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds corny but the best thing is communication, im a teen too so i kno. my mom and i get along great and thats becuz we talk. no i dont go running to her everytimesom1 makes me sad or rag on my friends, but i am able to talk to her about thing. so try just talking to ur mom, tell her whats bothering u(be mature about it, dont wi=hine, it gets u no where.) this even means if ur talking for an hour. just talk! thats how u guys can hav a better relationship and stop getting on each others nerves
2006-10-17 10:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by <333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should try talking to her and finding out y she does the things that make you so upset i'm pretty sure she has a reason and if you can have an adult conversation without you two yelling at each other im pretty sure you can get a lot resolved
2006-10-17 10:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by QUEEN ME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋