Why do some women hate it when their men watch porn?

Question

I have this same situation with my girlfriend. She absolutely hates when I watch porn and says that it is disrespectful towards her. She thinks that I am watching it because I like to look at the women and takes it personal.

I for one only watch it to tug one out whenever she can’t/won’t take care of me.

That’s the only reason. Otherwise I have no need for it nor do I have any desire to watch.

So what are your reasons (if it does upset you) for getting pissed at your man for watching it? Maybe I need to hear it from other women to get a better understanding.

Answer 1

I've had this same problem in the past too and I think it comes down to two things:

#1) She really does hate porn and finds it disgusting. Hey, some people dont need to see other people naked, I can respect that.

OR

#2) She's insecure and jealous that you get turned on by pornstars. There is not much you can do here except explain to her that its not the same thing as what you feel for her and maybe even try to get her to sit and and watch a little. I've done this in the past and even found some good stuff that ended up turning my partner on. :-)

And just for good measure, here's a another one:

#3) She's actually really, really repressed and on some level finds porn alluring and its scares her. Some people get it banged into their head so much that porn is "EVIL" that they feel really bad that it actually is able to turn them on a little.

Good luck!! ^_^

Answer 2

I hate to admit it, but yes, I hate the fact that a lot of men watch porn and when I find out, its a huge turn off to the point I beg my boyfriend not too. I'm incredibly insecure and seeing these perfect girls and knowing the guy I love watches them instead of me, makes me feel like crap. I don't know of any women that likes the idea of men watching porn because its usually degrading, too fake and will definitely make most women insecure, wondering if they're actually good enough for their man. I do know some women who attempt to accept the fact that their partner watches porn, they even attempt to watch it with them, but inside, its tearing them apart. I told my boyfriend that I didn't like porn, so he stopped all porn but kindly asked for some pictures of myself, as that's all he wanted anyway but I had refused over and over again, being insecure and all. I gave him some pictures, he's happy with it all now and so am I. It can be sorted. :) Porn is made by men for men, so most of the videos are not about 'making tender love' but are normally the opposite. Most of the porn videos I've seen, the women are trying their hardest not to show pain or discomfort from having things forced into their mouths, choking them, or having large genitalia aggressively pushed into ever orifice in sight. Furthermore, men pick up many negative things from porn, which are far from pleasant or enjoyable.

Answer 3

I honestly think that its a vile preoccupation of men. Especially if they are already in relationships - I mean if you're 17 and lonely whatever as long as it doesnt become an obsession. But if I were with a guy who openly and often looked at porn - I'd be upset. I mean if you found your partner truly attractive and you 'loved' them why would you need to find additional fufillment elsewhere? Why cant fantasizing about your partner do the same thing as watching porn? And at that why cant you restrain yourself until the next time your girlfriend is around Im sure that she would be willing to help you out in those areas ALOT more often if you gave up the porn especially since it bothers her.

Answer 4

Well, i never was gelous if my exes were watching porn until i met the guy i.m with now..i mean i was totally into porn since like forever and always watched it with my exes, and i watched it with him too at the start, till i noticed he doesn.t look at porn like most ppl do, like sexual stuff..no..he.s just into how the girls look. He.s just into solo girl masturbating or lesbian movies where the chicks have to look perfect. Very tall, perfect(i really mean perfect) pussy n ***, and perfect breasts. So i.m not into watching porn with him anymore..cuz instead of getting horny and feeling like an orgy is happening even tho the pornstars aren.t real, i feel like..u can imagine:) i am not ugly or fat or any but it makes me feel like that. makes me feel like i.m not good enough and if he could actually have to choose between those girs in real life and me he would definitely choose to **** em. so i started lookin at porn for women:
http://evasporn.blogspot.com
He doesn.t like it either...

Answer 5

I dont bother about that to be honest...I am secure enough in my relationship for it not to bother me that he uses porn to jack off occasionally.

Although i dont watch it myself, i do read pornographic literature (black lace and www.literotica.com ) and that has the same effect for me. Just because they arent 'real' people doesnt mean it isnt the same thing essentially - using something external from your relationship to stimulate you.

But everybody is different i guess...!

Answer 6

hey I hear ya I always hear women saying how they hate porn what is wrong with porn would women like it if we just resolved to another form of getting one out and let me tell you we dont have enough jails in america for that

Answer 7

I don't get mad as long as he isn't watching it while we are making out or anything. If he is watching it and not focusing on ME during that time, I could get testy.

I think women who get mad and actually make an issue of it are the ones who are insecure about themselves.

Answer 8

I don't know why she hates it, I love to watch with my man. I think it spices things up on the bedroom (if u know what I mean) Maybe u should ask her to join u in watching and tell her that its just for fun.
I think she might enjoy it.

Answer 9

Of course it's disrespectful. I actually don't mind watching it with my man but if he watches it on his own it makes me feel like what i have is not good enough for him and he has look at someone wtih bigger boobs, butt, etc. Pron corodes your mind! that's why i don't want my guy watching it without me. IF we watch it together it's only to spice things up but not everyday- on occasions!

Answer 10

women are very competative, they feel if u are horny u should approach them instead of the computer....
Question... would u care if she watched porn of guys with really big ones all the time?