My daughter is 18m old. I am baby crazy! I want another one, but my hubby wants to wait because we have a crazy busy schedual and his job will change next year. How far apart did you space your kids and why?
2006-10-17 09:45:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Look at it this way, it could take you a while to get pregnant, and once you are pregnant, it's not like the baby will be here the next day.
So, you can both get what you want. You want to hurry and have a baby (so go get pregnant) and he wants to wait because he is changing jobs next year...well hello. It will be next year when the baby arrives. You can both get what you want out of this.
I think the gap in your childrens ages would be great right now. She is 18 months. Let's say it takes you two months to get pregnant (if youre lucky), she is then 20 months. nine months later and she is 2 years and five months. Sounds great to me.
My best friends are going through this right now. It's like our whole neighborhood is baby crazy. When I moved in, my neighbor was pregnant, i was pregnant, and then the lady who moved next door to me is also pregnant. Now my best friend (a couple more houses down) wants to get pregnant and has a 14 month old. I had my baby in July. One neighbor is due this week and the other in two weeks. The others are still trying, and they have been trying for about two months now.
Then again, my two cousins are only eleven months apart, lol. And they love it. Pretty much, my aunt went in for her six weeks check up and was told she was pregnant again. If i had the stability and finances to have done it that way, I would have. I would definitely be trying right now and my son is only three months old.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-10-17 10:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Barbi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only have one, he's 4 months old, so we are in no hurry to have another one but we have actually talked about it. I told him that I would like to start trying in Dec of 07 which would make them 2 1/2 years apart if I got pregnant right then. It took us a couple of months to get pregnant so if it goes as planned they will probably be 2 1/2 to 3 years apart. I think that's a good age difference. My sister and I are 2 1/2 yrs apart and I think it worked out well! We are the best of friends now.
2006-10-17 10:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by cj2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you and I are in the same boat, my daughter being 18 months now, and how I want another one.But as far as spacing is concerned, we are just letting it happen now, we are not protecting it,and also not "really" trying. So just if it happens great.If not ,"oh well". It is really up to you guys and how his job concerns you staying at home with the new baby. But maybe even if you got pregnant It would all work out.Babies are a blessing,and God will bless the loving mothers.
2006-10-17 09:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by wallsuds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my daughter is also 18 months and we are currently expecting a baby in June. When the new baby is born my daughter will be a little over 2 years old. I think it's a good age difference. I think my daughter will enjoy it because she might be able to help me out a little bit and she just loves other babies.
2006-10-17 09:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 22 months apart. I am baby crazy too! I love being a mom. I have 9 month old and am ready for another one. My husband thought we should wait longer with the first two,but he is glad we didn't.Good luck!
2006-10-17 10:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I speak from my folk's perspective:
3-4 yrs apart helped in these ways:
We didn't fight over the same toys
We looked up to the older sibling for advice & mentoring
College costs were better managed
Each sibling had their time for marriage, kids, events so that there was minimal schedule conflicts
The oldest and youngest were 10 yrs apart, but they are the closest.
When it came to room changes, the time was right for independence of the next sibling
Costs were generally spread out
Some hand-me-downs were still suitable fashion
And
All 4 of us kids live within 20 minutes of Ma & Pa! Christmas', Thanksgiving & 4th of July's are all local and together. As adults over 40, we count on each other, respect each other, have good independent lives.
One brother had 3 kids in diapers under 5 at one time. His wife ended up being permanently on depression meds because of the stress of 3 kids wrecking havoc on her hormones and energy. It worked her body pretty hard and did kinda change her.
Check with your gyn and see if you are healthy and stout enough to put up with the emotional and physical demands.
Best to you!
2006-10-17 09:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I remember Dr. Spock said 3 years. We did that and it's worked out well. The resons why is because the mom isn't overwhelemed with two toddlers at once (they need a LOT of attention) and yet the kids are close enough in age that they can still be friends with each other as they go through school.
2006-10-17 09:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Black Parade Billie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 2 now and we are expecting our second in march. she'll be 3 by the time the baby is born. we waited until now because we wanted to enjoy her as a baby and also get her potty trained before a new baby. it just makes it a little easier to only have one in diapers. also we waited because we wanted our daughter to be able to talk to us. she has a great vocabulary so we know if there is a problem she can tell us instead of just crying. good luck.
2006-10-17 09:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by atruddie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love babies too! Mine are 11 and 13 now and I truly miss when they were little!!! I waited two years. I asked God to have a boy first to protect my second child - which I asked for a girl. WALA! God did it! It's a good age. They played together alot when they were young. Now they fight a lot, but that's a whole 'OPRAH' story in itself. With your busy schedule and your hubby changing jobs - it's a good idea to wait. I know you didn't want to hear that. Good luck!
2006-10-17 09:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by curiousgeorgette 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I waited two years to have my second child. First, you have to let your body heal from the pregnancy. Then chose a time when the others will be able to accept a new addition. My son wanted a brother when he was two and wanted me to go buy one from the store. I got pregnant but didn't tell him at 2 about it. I brought home my daughter and my son told me to take her back. I explained to him there was a no return policy and mommy and daddy wanted a girl.
Now they are best friends.
2006-10-17 10:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by greylady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋