I've only been with one guy my whole life (6 years) I'm 21 now, I can't bring myself to have sex with anyone else. Although I would love to, especially when I'm dating soo many hot guys. I know I was comfortable with my ex, but why is it soo much easier for him and other girls to go around being Sl*ts? I was dating this guy for three months, and I couldn't bring myself to even take off my sweater, he later figured out I wouldn't have sex with him so he stop talking to me. So do you have to be comfortable with someone, or drunk or what? GEEEEE someone tell me how they do it!?!? BTW I'm such a horn dog.
2006-10-17 09:35:31 · 19 answers · asked by Bebe760 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps you are dating guys that you have no real physical attraction to? Maybe you date guys you don't feel comfortable with so you can use that as a reason to not have sex.
The answer is in you.
Ask yourself the question.
Is it a power thing?
Is it a sexual thing ...you can only have sex a "certain" way.
Is it a body image thing?
I mean there a million thing we could all come up with here.
But ultimately you have to answer the question yourself and decide whether your happy being the way you are or not.
2006-10-17 09:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems you are still in a way hung up over you ex. You need to come to terms with that before you are going to be ready.
Comfort level and shyness is also a key factor. Since you've only been with one guy, sex still feels very private. Relax and give people a chance.
Don't jump the gun and go for it all out just to do it, but when you are hot, and he is for you, and the butterflies come, just remember, the butterflies aren't telling you not too, that's that excitement and anticipation of something great and new!
I'm a horn dog too. Los Angeles, drop me a line if your in town.
2006-10-17 16:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must be part of a crazy minority but I dont think sex is like chiclets to be handed out when the need arises. If I have to bring myself to have sex with someone, then something is wrong here....terribly wrong to start.
First of all, there is an old adage I believe in, women use sex to get love and men, vice versa. What lots of women dont understand is men are programmed physical and women arent...its just that simple. What you need to determine is whether the relationship and where its progressing is for you. If nature isnt taking its course, it isnt for you.
Sex, love, nurturing, or darn near anything else for that matter forced, alters other things around it and usually not for the good.
2006-10-17 16:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey there is nothing wrong with you not wanting to go out there and smut yourself. I am the same way. I have been with my man for 31/2 years and i cant picture myself having sex with someone else. Dont become one of those women. I know your a horn dog but try tostick to one man at a time., or get porn and a dildo.
2006-10-17 16:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jessi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the right man comes along then you will not have any problem being intimate with him. I think it is great that you are not so loose. You must have had a great relationship with your ex and you view it as something special to be shared in a special and not cheap way. Mr. right is out there and he will find you, and when he does give it to him like he has never had it before.
2006-10-17 16:41:41 · answer #5 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it has to be someone that you can't wait to see naked, then just let your own hormones take over. I was with my first tome guy for five years before I had sex with someone else. (A S.W.A.T/ officer yummy!) I never regretted it, because lovers can teach you so many new things and each man or woman will love your body in their own way. Maybe you'll have an orgasm like nothing you've ever felt before.
2006-10-17 16:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by princessslave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been in a relationship that ended.... You regard sex as something that goes with LOVE... If you are unsure of their love for you, you are uncomfortable with being sexual with them...
Let them call you frigid or whatever... Better to be a square with "regrets" than to be a "slut" with STDs, Babies, or abortions which all carry emotional baggage.
Guys and Gals who sleep around, have no real love or respect for the other person or themselves...
Don't worry, when the right guy comes along, he won't associate sex with love... He'll love you, you'll love him... He'll make the true commitment to you and you'll openly, willingly, and lovingly give your whole self to him...
2006-10-17 16:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, get drunk and sorta do it in public on the dance floor or the bathroom. Maybe even on the back of some persons poor buick. Yeah. That's great advice. Don't forget the condom - studded.
2006-10-17 16:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by devilUknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pretend your with your ex...then it will be easier for you to do it the first time. Maybe the guys you've been dating aren't right 4 u so your consious is telling u not to do it.
2006-10-17 16:40:39 · answer #9 · answered by miarae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a child of God?
Then respect yourself.....sex before marriage is now God's Way.
If you have to give sex to have a relationship....then this is not the right relationship....
The right relationship will respect you for waiting and not being free with your body.....
Stay young....wait until your're married for sex and let your body be clean and pure body (NEW) for your husband.
Each time you have sex with another your're having sex with their previous partners, etc.....allowing yourself a chance to contact a diease....this is on the physical...but on the spirituial plane your also opening up generational issues of your partner.......
Check this information out at your Christian Church.
This will save you a lot of hardships later in life, i.e. open doors, etc..
Wait for marriage and on you wedding date have sex with him and only him.
2006-10-17 16:51:45 · answer #10 · answered by smwiltz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋