Are the things we are teaching our kids the same things they will need to deprogram themselves of later?

Question

We spend time giving our kids "time outs" in order to teach them about acceptable behavior so they can grow up and be productive member os society to go to book stores and buy books that tell them they need to get rid of everything they have been taught and get in touch with their "true selves"

I know this is easily negatable but if you really think about how much to do teach our kids just to make it easier on ourselves as parents?

Answer 1

Kids need some sort of discipline. Nowadays, its the timeouts. Back in the day, it was beatings, or serious spankings. We cant 'not' discipline them because no matter what, that teaches them limits and rules. Yes, we want them to be their own person when they get older, but they still have rules and laws to follow. I dont see why they would need to be 'de programmed' from being raised with that kind of discipline.

Answer 2

Well, we're teaching them what's acceptable behavior in our household, while we are responsible for them. When they grow up they can go make their own rules, if they want.

I will not have a 3-foot tyrant in my house, and I won't feel bad about teaching him manners and rules so that his company is bearable. I don't think that's asking a lot. I think when he grows up he'll see the wisdom of not being allowed to be an unholy jerk, even if it means he can't do what he wants when he wants absolutely all the time. This is the reality adults know that kids don't understand yet. I think even most 'true selves' would at least acknowledge that.

Answer 3

Well, it depends upon what we teach our children. We are supposed to be teaching morals, values and ethics. Ultimately we all have to deal with these subjects on our own when we become of age and it is a godsend when we grow up with our morals, values and ethics in proper order. If a child grows up without morals, without values and without ethics then they are a danger to any decent human being they become involved with. We see such teachings going the way of good manners and concern for those less well off than ourselves. The culture is in decline in America and too many parents were not taught values as they were growing up and so it goes......
If one is so shallow that they buy a book and it says their true self is to be only into theirself and that becomes their value, then so be it. Doing the right thing has never changed in this country and it never will, but I do see the decline of the American culture as inevitable and unstoppable.
Any parent who does not teach their children from birth to the parents' death is a parent who took the "easy" way out only to live long enough to experience the hell their lovely offspring ultimately put them through.

Answer 4

simply stated we do not know what were doing when I was small they spanked us or worse now you must deal with them as adults while they are kids. I think it makes them more manipulating as adults, why is that they are allowed to do it as children.

Also they are unaware of the consequences of what can turn ugly and become a violent situation.