My 23 yr old sis's husband has been 2 Iraq twice 4 a yr both times. He's in Iraq now so my sister moved here,home, with her inlaws. Me&my family were so excted about her moving home 4 a yr. But everything has changed. My sister cheated on her husband w/his ex-bestfriend &got pregnant w/ this losers child. She wanted 2 keep the baby and stay w/ this loser and told her husband in IRAQ! that she didn't want 2B w/ him anymore & wanted a divorce bc she loved "the loser"! OMG! Meanwhile my whole family, including me became distant 4m her bc we didnt know what 2 say 2 her. Than she decided she didn't want the baby,had an abortion & said she hated "the loser"& would do anything 2 get her husband back. (Meanwhile, my sister told everyone that she had a miscarraige, which every1 still thinks) Now she wants 2B back w/the loser! She just told me today that she's movin back 2 TN bc she hates it here &her fam is all up in her busines. What do I do/say? How do I act/Feel. I'm torn/hurt/concerned?
2006-10-17 09:31:09 · 13 answers · asked by errnmann 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
man, i feel really bad for the guy in iraq, he is out there risking his life everyday to keep people like your sister safe. and she goes behind his back. first off i would tell everyone the truth about your sister. expessily the guy in iraq make sure he knows she cheated and aborted a baby. he has a RIGHT to know because it could be somthing that changes his mind and future with her.
good luck with everything. hope it all works out. i would kick that girl out and just cut her off from talking to her for a while after calmley letting her know how you feel about all this.
2006-10-17 09:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't judge your sister for her actions because no matter what- she's your sister and you should stick by her. She wasn't thinking clear when she did waht she did. She probably needed love and attention that her husband couldn't give her. You should accept her because either way- she didn't mary you or the family. The only person that she has to deal with the issue is her hsuband. Why should she have to explain why she did what she did to you or the family?? don't ask her no questions she has enought to answer from her husband already. You should be a good sister and be by her side no matter what. Something similar happend to my sister and i knew what was going on and even saw it with my own eyes did i run and tell her man? HELL NO!! that's their business. The way i look at it- it's wrong but she's grown and knows what she's doing and WHY she's doing it. The family shouldn't judge her. IF she has nowhere to stay the falily should embrace her and help her she's already been through enough no matter what the truth is about what happened to teh unborn baby. IF YOU know the truth- don't tell anyone else they will only tlak s hit and make fun of her and that will hurt you hearing others talk about your sister. Remember- she's your won flesh & blood don't betray her like that. Who knows it can happen to you! what would you expect your family to do for you??
2006-10-17 17:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "HUSBAND" who is assisting in protecting our country has probably lived through enough ache, but still needs to be reintegrated and survive when he comes back the the United States of America. Who is going to inform him, (about what he probably already knows), and who's shoulder can he lean on? On the base when he returns are advocates that can help him through this, but he still needs a family, (yours or his) to get him through this. Don't let him fall through the cracks, check out military resources for assistance BEFORE he comes home, and be there!!!
2006-10-17 16:47:04 · answer #3 · answered by lin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
Tell her she is nuts - once that's all you can do.
Love her, don't listen to the drama, walk away.
Keep in touch with her husband, you and your family can still support him, cause he doesn't deserve this crap.
Otherwise ignore her dramas, sounds attention seeking.
Don't let it bother you. You can't she is your sister, not your moral guide. Be strong, and just love her.
She might need that.
2006-10-17 16:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by Oh, I see 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly if you really want to say something you have to tell her the truth and be honest but not bias she was very wrong to cheat on her husband but you should make sure that they were not together just because your married doesn't mean you are currently with that person but if she was indeed with him and cheating she was very wrong but you need to express to her also how it feels to receive a letter or phone call in iraq from someone you love and thought that they also loved you to find out that while you are risking your life they are at home giving it up to god knows who she could have waited till he came home to tell him people do commit sucide or at least think about it because of situations like this one your sister has some issues that she needs someone to bring them to her attention and be honest and tell her she is very wrong
2006-10-17 16:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by icandi22 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let her be trust me u don't want 2 get involved I know Once u r though more hell will break loose. just tell her that u r there for her. What ever she dose is her problem in the end she'll come 4 help
2006-10-17 16:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Ewie,
That is quite a pickle!!! I think that all of our solders deserve better than she has given him. Please do not take this the wrong way, but he is off fighting for her right to be free, but it was never intended to be that free!!! If you would care to chat, let me know. My mail is lonnie_m_d and I am at yahoo.com
Huggs and Kisses,,,,
Lonnie
2006-10-17 16:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by lonnie_m_d 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Theres nothing much you can do, You can try talking to her and tell her your concerns for her if she doesnt want to listen then you have to let her go, learn from her own mistakes...
2006-10-17 16:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by Tracy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't judge her. help her to see that it is wrong to cheat on her husband. if she does not want to be with her husband to divorce him. then it would be okay to see others. but as long as she is married she has vows to uphold.
2006-10-17 16:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
your sister is a grown woman . you can't live her life for her . she has to learn from her mistakes . just be there for her when she realizes her mistakes and needs her family for support.
2006-10-17 16:37:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋