When love doesn't work out... when you can't forget that someone you love with all your heart.... when you are sure that you two belong to each other... when you just aren't interested in anyone else... but when that love hasn't worked out, when you rarely see each other anymore... when she probably doesn't care about you anymore, not as a romantic interest at least.
When you love, but she doesn't. When fate conspires against the two of you. When you were so close and now you are so far. What can you do?
Should I let go and try to move on, even though I can't?
Should I try a blunt confession that might ruin any possible chances ever after if it fails?
Or should I make a pause, drink a cup of tea, and fight another day when the odds are better? Will the odds be better again?
Speak to me.
2006-10-17 09:29:08 · 10 answers · asked by Eclipse 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like a poem
you need time. thats the best thing that can help you. i know its hard when you give your heart and get nothing back in return.
maybe a part of you will always love her, which is ok. but in time it won't be as all consuming as it is right now. i felt that way about a man. i ended up wasting 10 years of my life waiting for him. i was sure we were meant to be together. that what i felt was that we were meant by god and all the powers meant to be together. to work together.....to love and to walk side by side. its been probably 3 or 4 years now.....let me tell you.....i am so glad i never married this man. when i was able to get my head out of the fog and into reality i seen how much time i wasted. now turninging 38. any prospects of children are gone. i stopped always being there for him i guess when i was about 35. wasted from about 25 to 35 on him. i regret that. i regret wasting so much precious time on him. i could of had babies and a real lasting marriage with someone who wanted to be with me. anyways, it was my own decision to wait. i know this. so i dont' blame him. i wish i could but i don't. at least my mind is clear headed now. so i say this from experience. you will get over it. you will find a love that is true to you and your mate. let it go and don't waste time. its to precious
2006-10-17 09:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is such a touch question to answer, because 4 months ago I was going through the same thing. Well, not sure the same thing, but I felt the way you did about a guy I was in a relationship with on and off for 7 years. We had a lot of good history, but a lot of bad history as well. I loved that person so much and I didn't want to let go of them, because I thought we were meant to be together no matter what we went through. I tried numerous times to work it out and probably tried every way possible to make it work. In then end I kind of regretted that, but you never know unless you try. It's all about taking risks even if it doesn't work in your favor. The hardest thing in the world is letting someone go, but sometimes we have to do that. I was so sad to see my relationship end, but I knew in my heart if was the best thing for me if I ever wanted to be happy in a relationship ever again. Not sure if that helps at all, but good luck to you!!! :)
2006-10-17 16:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
short and sweet. move on. it takes time. it hurts. you think you cant but you can. there are plenty more people in this world that are comparable to the one you loved. there will be other relationships. dont do the blunt confession, sounds like she wouldnt want to hear it. The odds wont ever get better. But one thing to remember....when the pain finally subsides just a little bit and you decide to meet other women and date them....dont, i repeat dont compare the new women in your life to this "one" that you loved so much. You wont get anywhere in life and you will spend a long time grieving over this loss. Be grateful for the time you had with her, learn from the relationship and why it didnt work, become independent again and move on. You can do it.
2006-10-17 16:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Vanessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat, I just lost the love of my life ut all i can say TIME WILL HEAL ALL! Well that is what everyone one else is telling me, I don't see it getting any better. But hey if you love them let them go, and if it is ment to be it will be
2006-10-17 16:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by Shalyn V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my sounds like alot of drama...in your writing...Let go if she still loved you she would be with you.. you are not with each other for a reason open your eyes to other opportunities then your heart will follow. time heals all....
2006-10-17 16:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by miarae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak 2 her about this & if she dosen't want to work it out move on.
2006-10-17 16:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... you can't make someone love you.
Question is do you love her enough to let her find happiness even if it is not with you?
2006-10-17 16:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup in time, harsh as it sounds you'll be fine.
2006-10-17 16:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in it, fight for it.
2006-10-17 16:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by boobooshurt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try to move on ......... open yourself up to other people
2006-10-17 16:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by cherdwum4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋