My bf and I have lived together for 8 months. We have made love about 8 times since we moved in together. I have brought it up in conversation many times that I need more 'u know what', and he acts like he loves me more than anything. But yet, he still never attempts to 'do' me. Its always me instigating the event. Is there anything I can do to increase his sexual appetite for me besides doing sexual acts on him first?? I want him to make the move first! More than once a month! When I dress up, he doesn't even notice.
2006-10-17 09:12:27 · 16 answers · asked by Nancy D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I married a man with this type of sex drive, and we ended up divorced!!.......You will feel very low self esteem with this man, I know i constantly felt unloved and unattractive.........i had lots of men fancying me but not the man I married!!.......I think it just boils down to the fact that he has a low sex drive and you just cant change a person.....god knows I tried. A man like him just doesnt appreciate a good woman.....!! Get rid!
2006-10-17 09:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and lay it out for him. Don't hint, say it straight out. That behavior is not normal AT ALL. He is having some kind of issue that probably doesn't have anything to do with you.
If he doesn't know why, ask him to see a doctor or a therapist. I repeat, this is not normal and there is most definitely something wrong with him, not you.
2006-10-17 09:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I see. Hmmm..yes, yes this is a problem my dear. I suspect that there may be a solution to this dilemma. What I will need from you is to have you send to me several photographs of you in various stages of attire that you wear for your boyfriend as well as several au natural shots from both front and rear. Please sent these to my e-mail address and after careful examination I should be able to arrive at a satisfactory conclusion for you.
By the way...a more serious response to this can be found in your first question. Good luck!
2006-10-17 09:19:00 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You may want to have a conversation with him about it and let him know that it bothers you....you just have to prepare yourself for his answer. Some men just don't have a high drive like you apparently do. If he can't satisy your *needs* you may need to find someone who does.
2006-10-17 09:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by aak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and attraction are two separate things...he may love you? but it doesn't mean he's attracted to you.
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2006-10-17 09:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want him to make moves on you. Hell I do to my gf and she ignores it. Maybe it's time for me to move on 1/month sucks give me at least 1/day or give me death!!! Who's with me?
2006-10-17 09:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a man with a bigger sexual appetite.
2006-10-17 09:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dam! and you guys live 2gther! I think he's gay! If not u should buy some porn and show it to him. maybe play some games with him. You know what I would do , I would give him a lap dance butt naked! show him some ***!
2006-10-17 09:16:34 · answer #8 · answered by Laura R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you need to sit down and in no uncertain terms, explain what it is you want from him in all matters of sex
2006-10-17 09:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be a beard my dear.
Or he may just have a low sex drive
Or he may be cheating
Or he may be stressed out
Lots of potential reasons. Try talking to him about it.
2006-10-17 09:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by Gem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋