Is 18 too young to get married?

Question

I am 18 and love my boyfriend of 3 years very much. we are about to move in together and i would like to get engaged but think he wants to wait a few years. wot shall i do???

Answer 1

some people do but......I don't. I'm 17 and I am engaged!!!! we are playing to get married in 8 months. I have known my bf for about 2 years now. (shhhhhh...I tell everyone that he is my husband....but he's still my bf for the moment.) teeehehehehehehehehe.

-Heaven/Hell-

Answer 2

It's not a matter of age, it's a matter of maturity. Some people are ready to marry at 18 and some are never ready. I'm assuming that the three years you two were dating you were living with your parents and in high school. Life can change quite a bit after graduation with first jobs and/or college. It's great you two are trying to go through this stage together but remember that you may very well end up going in different directions. You don't want to push engagement and then find it is you who wants to move on. Live together for a while and see how things go.

Answer 3

Yes 18 is too young even though you are legal. There is no need to rush into anything.

Perhaps get engaged but hold off on marriage for another 2 or 3 years. This will give you time to grow and allow for change if necessary.

Marriage is hard work. If you two were meant for each other and you truely love one another - holding off 2 or 3 years won't matter. You'll still be together and by the time you get married you'll just have an even stronger bond and relationship to hopefully make for a long lasting life together.

Answer 4

I think you should wait to get married, but go ahead and move in with him. I got married at 22 and after 13 years of trying to make it work I realized that who you love at 18 or 22 isn't necessarily the person you will want to be with and be in love with at 28 or 32.

That doesn't mean you can't keep spending time together, enjoy your youth and see where it leads you. There is just no RUSH to get married. Lots of people live together and it gives you a chance to learn about what it will be like if you do get married. Enjoy your life and stop pushing!! Good Luck.

Answer 5

At 18, you are a completely different person than you are at 25 or 30. No one who I know, myself included, had any idea what they wanted to do with themselves at 18. Getting married is a huge step that most 18 yr olds are not prepared for due to their maturity. Most people, if not all, try to get life experience in before they settle down with anyone. By getting married that young, you are missing out on so much. You boyfriend is very wise to wait. There's nothing wrong with moving in together but don't rush into getting married.

Answer 6

Yes. By all means, wait. You would not believe how much you grow up between the age of 18 and 21. You would hate to get married at 18 and by the age of 21 have two kids and be completely miserable and think you missed out on life. I wouldn't move in together either. Thats probably the worst thing you could do for your relationship.

Answer 7

I got married one week after I turned 18 and have been married for 3 years already and it has been great. However, you do have to go into marriage with a realistic view. You need to know that even though you love each other you will have problems and you will argue. That does not mean that you will run at the fist sign of trouble, if you are getting married you have to go into it thinking that it will be for the rest of your life. Something that is is very important is the age of your boyfriend, you need to make sure he will be able to live up to the responsibility of being the head of a household. Also, make sure that you both have the same goals and that you both want the same things out of life. But most important, make sure you are doing it for the right reasons, not just because you want to get out of your house, but because you love each other and want to be together.

Hope everything works out.

Answer 8

18 is not too young to get married.
If you are going to be living together you should be married.

When you are married you are protected by the law as a couple.
You can make medical decisions for each other. You are truly partners in a financial sense. If the relationship dissolves you are entitled to half of the wealth earned.

If you insist on moving in together without a marriage license, get a lawyer to write up some sort of contract, about $$, chores, etc.

I'm serious.

And if he won't marry you now, he never will, so just dump him & move on.

Answer 9

I say wait. Live a little bit. Wait till you are 24 or 25 and make sure this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with after you have gone out and partied it up for awhile. Experience life. You as a person will change alot during this time and so will he. If it still works then get married, if not move on.

Answer 10

Its difficult to say yes or no to marriage at 18 years.For some,it may be too young,yet for others,their young marriage survived.However,there are several issues that you both have to consider like financial status and more importantly,your maturity level.90% of people change drastically in their early to mid twenties from their teenage years.Can your marriage withstand the change?I am not scaring you but i do have a friend who married at 19 and at 25,she wanted out of the marriage because she found out that she wanted so much more out of life.However,she already had 2 children by then and there are many things that are beyond her control.She became depressed and committed suicide but luckily,she was saved.
I do not mean that your marriage will turn out like that but maybe you should just wait a few years before commiting to marriage.However,if you are 100% sure you love your guy,go ahead,you should know what is best for youself.Best of luck=)

Answer 11

I think it is. There are more reasons why you should wait, than I have room for.

The first one I can think of is that you have been with this person since you were 15. You need to be alone for a while, not lonely but by yourself. You have very much narrowed your life and you haven't even begun to live it. I hope you have plans to further your education. I hope you aren't planning to move in with him and then get pregnant and then wonder in 5 years what you have done with your life. I have seen this way too many times.

I think if you are asking this, then you know that you are not ready to get married and you should wait. I also think you should hold off on moving in with him. But this is just my opinion.