I am in a potiental relationship. We were friends first and there is interest there on both parts, however, we both have major trust issues. So, things are going slow.
Recently, I have noticed that he is opening up more to me. Sharing things deep and private. Like you would a 'girlfriend'. I guess we are in the 'talking' stage *shurg*.
Anyway, with him opening up more it means I am gaining his trust. Which....kinda, in all honesty, scares me. I mean, I would never do anything to betray him at all! but, the fact that I know he doesn't trust - but he DOES trust me. I am scared of messing up.
So, my question is - is it normal to feel this way? or am I feeling this way because of my own trust issues?
2006-10-17 09:05:35 · 6 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The answer is yes to both of ur questions. Once you have been hurt it is hard to trust again. Scared is normal but dont let it take over. Feel priviledged he is trusting you. Good luck.
2006-10-17 09:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by cherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your questions is yes it is normal and yes it is because of your trust issues. I was on my own for 3 years after my husband and I split. I told my boyfriend when I started dating him that I didnt' think it would work because I don't trust anyone. He had similar issues, as his ex wife cheated on him more than once.
I am happy to say that you are on the right path, it is scary, but stick with it. Be honest with him and take small steps, the relationship is worth it in the long run. I wouldn't take back anything in my past that led me to the man I am with now. He is the love of my life and I trust him completely. I never thought I had it in me to trust again...it just takes time and patience!
2006-10-17 16:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sharing is okay.....it's like thearpy with someone you trust.....keep the shared information private so you do not loose trust telling private issues to your friends, mother, etc until the affliciated person desires to share. But, if someone plans to harm themselves then this becomes another issue. Contact a help line....dial "211" for information and help.
Read the New Testaments of the Holy Bible for strength and guidance.
Peace.
2006-10-17 16:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by smwiltz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your own issues to me. Just let your fears go. They are controlling your life, and hibdering you from experiencing all that life, love and people in these areas have to offer.
2006-10-17 16:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty sure this is normal. He might have nobody to talk to and be having a rough time. So either you tell him you don't like him telling you these or you listen to them. People like listeners and I guess you are one of them.
2006-10-17 16:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound emotional avaible yet. Let him knwo before it gets weird for you
2006-10-17 16:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋