Me and my boyfriend were together from December 30, 2005. Our relationship was so magical and he was the first boy that I ever really loved. And when I say love, I mean LOVE! I engulfed myself into him , he was my life. But, he got into this school, its like a boarding school for the highly intelligent, he comes home about every month, sometimes more than that. It varies really on how many holidays are in the month. He lives 3 hours away. We were together almost 8 months when he left. It didn't even work for a month and then we broke up. I was so hurt so badly and I still am hurting like mad. My heart is bleeding I feel as if I'm dying, slowly but certainly. What my question is, is should I give up on us or should I wait for him to finish school (he's in 11th grade now and he doesn't get out until the end of 12th)? I don't feel as if I won't anyone else because I love him as much as I ever did; I gave him my heart and I can't get it back. What should I do?
2006-10-17 08:56:41 · 27 answers · asked by korniegirl1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh my gosh! You sound so sweet ,and you are so young! I know that pain of the first love...mine was when I was 15..his name was Craig. I felt sick for weeks, and like the world would just end.
I'm 33 now, and very happy, but I still remember that.
Just realize how much more life you have to experience. If its meant to be, then it will be..in the meantime, move on...have fun, and when you are least expecting it, someone will step into your life!
Good Luck!
2006-10-17 09:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by katleblancis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to look at this a different way. If he is in this school because he is extremely intelligent then he is trying to make his life better. This is part of what he is doing to prepare for the future. I understand you are hurting but don't you think it's possible for the two of you to be friends and still love him??? I think it would be much easier than not having him in your life at all. If you remain friends and cool down the drama you will always be in his life. Then, there may come a day when you both decide that being together as a couple is what you want to do. I know waiting is hard but you should really try it. Until that day, you have to live your life. Date, have fun, go to prom, homecoming etc. He'll still be your friend, you can still hang out when he is home and email when he is not. Send him an email and let him know that you want to be friends. I think this will be much better for the both of you.
2006-10-17 09:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact of the matter is, you are both young and you are both living far apart. The odds for this relationship to work are slim. Granted, I have been in a long distance relationship before too, my ex went into the military 1 year into our relationship. We lasted about 6 months while he was in, but then went our separate ways. Its hard for a relationship to work when you are not connecting and spending time together. I say don't make any rash decisions right now. Just live it out, day by day, one day at a time and see where things go. It could end up working, it could end up not. Either way, it sounds like you are confused, so stay strong and maybe you should talk to your man. Hope this helps.
2006-10-17 09:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by ladyophelia7777 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well does he feel the same way you do? If so how is he trying to contribute to helping keep you all together? A relationship consists of tow individuals, and it takes both parties to work toward a similar cause,which would be your relationship. If you don't feel as though he is still intersted or is trying better the situation then let it go. You would only be pro-longing a situation that is not going to work. I hate to say it but you are young, and the luv you think you have for this guy is going to change as you move on with your life and grow up.
2006-10-17 09:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh sweetie. One day at a time. Don't go back. He does not want to be tied down while at boarding school. Take all the good things from this relationship and put them into the next one.
The thing we all need to remember, there is more than one potential LIFE partner out there. Don't be embittered by these experiences, but rather sift through them and use them to better future relationships and experiences.
Do you have close friends you can suck energy from until you feel alright about the situation. Alright is better than stuck but not quite OVER IT!!!
2006-10-17 09:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well from how it is explained it sounds like this is a young relationship. He probably is going to live his life, have other females and other experiences. When your young like that you really shoudln't be looking to settle down for good. When you have your late teens and early 20's on your hands you should just be going out with friends and having a good time. Don't get so wrapped up in all the theatrics of being with one single person.
Move on and have some fun.
2006-10-17 09:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by DLB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a firm believer in the theory all that was will be again. Just because you put him on a back burner for a while doesn't mean you are writing him off. It's very cliche but very true. If it was meant to be, then he's feeling the same things about you, and he will return. Just remember, if he's that smart, I would assume he plans on college??? You've got to learn to be as patient as you can be.
2006-10-17 09:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My best advise is that as each day passes, even if you don't notice, the pain lessens a tiny bit. If you move on, someday you won't even remember exactly how he looks. Next thing you know, you will fall just as madly in love with someone else as you are for him. If he felt exactly the same way, you would still be together.
2006-10-17 09:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweety life is too short...love hurts..life is full of changes...take them all in stride...wait if you feel that your life can be put on hold...but honestly you shouldn't...you are young and sure it hurts now but in a couple of weeks you'll feel refreshed and ready to jump back into dating..so get yourself a shoebox, label it with his name..fill it with memories, and put it in the back of your closet...call up some friends..(who you may have been neglecting) and go to the mall...see the Grudge 2...go to a haunted house....get out of the house and live!!!!
2006-10-17 09:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by itsmeuguys 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can still hold onto a chance that you and him can get back together but I would seek out a friends and keep your eyes open to other available guy's that will be hitting on you. Good luck.
2006-10-17 09:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋