Last night, during a fight, my roommate said he thinks I have a chemical because (according to him) I am beautiful. When I look in the mirror I think I am hedious. I am fat, my hair can get really frizzy, my skin isn't what you'd call clear. I think he's either lying to me or has known me so long he doesn't "see" me anymore. He says the reason I see myself so negitivly is because I have some sort of disorder. I don't think so. Is there a disorder like that?
2006-10-17 08:50:11 · 9 answers · asked by ~mj~ 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Even I admit this is somewhat beyond normal low self esteem. The big problem with it being that I end up with loosers because I assume that is all I can end up with. I have days where I cannot find one redeeming quality about myself. He also said that my "chemical imbalance" could be cured with medication but he doesn't believe in that. Why would he say that to me?
2006-10-17 09:01:19 · update #1
Hey khayum p!
My friend didn't "ditch" me. We were fighting about my looser bf and he brought this up. He wouldn't ditch me over something so trivial, he just doesn't like to see me in pain!
2006-10-17 09:12:52 · update #2
Yes, it is a disorder...
It's called relying on the media or society for self worth.
They (media ((print, TV)) put out there tall, beautiful, and air brushed women that we (the average gal) are supposed to look like.
What I've realized (over many, many years)...there will always be prettier, taller, smarter...etc people. Find who you are and work on ways of liking yourself.
You are made in the image of our creator and you are beautiful. Your roommate is right. You don't see what he does...Your heart.
Try judging yourself from the inside out...instead of the other way around.
2006-10-17 09:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way when I don't exercise, I know it sounds strange but after 2 days exercising I feel great about myself. I haven't exercised since last week and right now. and I don't even want to see a mirror. it may be a chemical thing seeing as how when a person is physically active different chemicals are released. hey, or you can just get some fat ugly frends, then you will always feel pretty.
2006-10-17 09:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by sisy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its a disorder its just poor self image likely caused by low self esteem he cant see your frizzy hair or the extra pound or pimple because he is not looking for that he probably just sees a nice person and thats beautiful to him give yourself a break u probably are beautifull believe in yourself
2006-10-17 09:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by zeek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO.. that's funny. I always feel the same way, but my ex and a couple of my friends tell me i am beautiful. Its funny how you cant see what they see, but beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. It'd not necessarily a chemical imbalance, but more like low self esteem
2006-10-17 08:54:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like low self esteem! Nobody knows you better than you but the most important thing is to love you.A lot easier said than done! It's amazing how we can cut off how we really look and how we feel but other people see how we really do look and it come back to self-esteem.
2006-10-17 09:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by emma b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is called Body Dysmorphic disorder.
2006-10-17 09:51:04 · answer #6 · answered by Fire_God_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the disorder of non acceptance. Your friend says you are beautiful because he sees it. I wish that everyone could see someone elses beauty. accept that your friend is right, because the mirror isn't sometimes.
2006-10-17 09:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by sam kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please understand that your roommate may be bipolar. This is a medical condition that can and will be treated by the right medication. Please understand your roommate and always talk to him when he's in this mental state of mind. Please talk to a counselor of your choosing for him and follow up with doctor appointments for him after he gets medicine for this condition and can openly talk about his mental stability.
God bless you both..
2006-10-17 09:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by Stacey Lynn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have answered the question yourself. That is why your friend has ditched you.
2006-10-17 09:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by khayum p 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋