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Why are people so mean??? Im 15 years old, 10th grade and on the bus today this kid kept poking my head..i tried to ignore it and he stopped after like 5 times of poking it!! i should have asked "whats your problem??" but im scared to stand up for myself because if i say that, he will call me a pimple face or a nerd or loser. i have very low selfesteem and dont even try to dress up at school cuz all i care about are grades..so theres a LOT he can say about the way i look. thats why i dont wanna yell at him. what should i do? should i stand up for myself and get dissed or shut up and keep getting picked on my whole life??

2006-10-17 08:38:39 · 23 answers · asked by Allyson 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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he might have a crush on you... either that or he's a bully. you should stand up for yourself... next time he picks on you ask "why do you care?" and he should back off for fear that someone may think he likes you.. if you don't stand up for yourself it will only get worse

2006-10-17 08:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 0 0

Aww.. How sad. I'm sorry that these people are giving you a hard time... Sometimes people are jerks for no reason, and a lot of times there is nothing you can do about it. Maybe you should dress up a little bit. That might help some. If I were you I would try to ignore them. People don't like bothering others if they aren't getting satisfaction from it. If you can pretend their teasing doesn't bother you they will probably get bored and leave you alone. Good luck w/this problem.

2006-10-17 15:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You really just need to take a stand. There are a few kids like that at my school and the best thing for me to do is to help them stand up for themselves. Maybe ask some kids you can trust to help you. Tell them your problem and maybe that will do some good. Try to just say "Can ya stop it?" With a little adittude and girl power. Girls can do anything so you can deffinitly overcome this. Just keep your head up and tomorrow try and sit away from him and not care what he is doing. If i can guess i imagin this kid doesnt have a lot or true friends. Right. If you need anymore help feel free to ask.

2006-10-17 15:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by fakealaugh 1 · 0 0

People are mean, I agree. I, also am in high school too. However, you can't be scared to stand up for yourself. Don't worry about what they'll say. People tease because they don't feel all that great about themselves. They feel better putting others down. It's not a nice thing, but It's true. Stand up for yourself, it's worth a shot, and don't put yourself down. Even so, maybe try dressing up some days, you might feel better about yourself, I know the way I dress helps my confidence, try it! =]

2006-10-17 15:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by k.c 2 · 0 0

The best thing to do when someone picks on you is either to ignore it or to turn around and smile your biggest smile and say "Good morning!!" loudly! You just act like it is a joke. He will probably stop out of the embarrassment of getting caught and made a fool! If you are not this bold, ignore it, and he will stop eventually! You don't always have to be mean to get a point across. Kindness kind cause a person to change their ways...

2006-10-17 15:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You know what, I had written a long drawn out treatise on self worth and how you should respond to others, but I chose to scrap that and file it under the title "easier said then done." Let me just say I am sorry you have to deal with such immature, unkind people. That sucks. You are worth a lot more then you think and I hope you find some good friends who can validate that for you.
By the way, I can say with almost certainty that someone will read your posting and see it as an opportunity to "pile on". Ignore it. Their comments aren't worth the time it takes to read them.

2006-10-17 15:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by hutmikttmuk 4 · 0 0

People are only mean to the ones they feel like they can take advantage of. You should always speak up for yourself no matter what the situation and how you look. If you don't speak up for yourself then you'll always get picked on which may lead to other problems later on in life. We all have flaws so find some in him and talk about him or anybody else that may have something to say about you screw them. Just never allow people to push you around and make you feel bad about yourself never.

2006-10-17 15:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Honey, what you look like matters very little later in life. Who you are and your confidence in yourself needs to come from inside you. Stand up for yourself, if they think they can get away with it, it will continue. You have as much value as anyone else, looks mean nothing. Keep after the good grades, maybe you can hire the bully to mow your lawn some day!

2006-10-17 15:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by Christina 4 · 0 0

ten years from now when you're a corporate executive, and he's working at McDonalds, you can laugh your head off.

Funny story... My sister is medium built. Not skinny, yet not fat by any stretch of the imagination. Some boy a few years younger than her harassed her everyday for about six months. We told her to just ignore him, he'll go away. Well, one day he called her fat. So, my sister finally turned around and said, "What did you say to me?" He stood up and said I called you fat. She stood up and said, "say that to me one more time." So he got in her face and said "YOU'RE FAT!" She reamed back and punched him in the nose. Blood was everywhere and he was screaming... she just turned around and walked of the bus. She did get suspended from school, but the days were cut down because the bus driver told the principal that this boy had been harassing her for months, and she finally blew.

I'm not saying punch him next time, I'm just saying everyone has their limits of what they will listen to. Make sure someone knows this boy is making your life miserable. A guidance counselor, a teacher, your parents,etc.

2006-10-17 15:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0 0

The problem is that many parents do not teach their children to respect others. There is nothing that you can do to make those children be nice, except to try to be nice to them.

One thing that I learned is that even though that mean child may chose to call me names, it does not mean that I am anything that child calls me.

The best way to stand up for yourself is to look the bully in the eye and show that you are not afraid. If you cannot do that, then just ignore the annoyance and as you noticed it will go away.

Bullies are looking for a response. If they do not get one than the bullying gets boring and they look for someone who will respond. Don't respond unless you can look them in the eye and show that you are stronger than they are.

I was a small child and another guy who was my size but stronger wanted to fight me in order to prove his manhood. I do not fight and could not even hit one of my friends at his request. Every time he came at me with his fists up, I just looked him in the eye and kept my arms down. He never hit me, because that would not have proven his strength and he knew it.

I spoke to my step-mother and she said to shake his hand in a hallway at school where he was essentially trapped. I did just that on a landing at my school. He shook my hand and a week later told me that my shirt was "cool". We eventually became friends, not best friends, but we were able to chat.

Believe in yourself, because in the end you are all that you've got.

Take care,
Troy

2006-10-17 15:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0 0

OMG Thats horrible. I think that you should stand up for yourself and I also think that you should dress up for yourself. I care about grades but I also try to make myself look nice everyday. Doing little things like that will help your self esteeme alot I think becasue people wont pick on you as much.

2006-10-17 15:48:24 · answer #11 · answered by maci jo 2 · 0 0

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