I have been married for three years and live alone as my husband travels every week.....i feel lonely.....so I feel I might feel better if I have a baby....it will change my life...and make me less depressed.....please tell me if what I think is correct....but my husband seems to shy away whenever i talk about this and tells me not to pressure him.....i hate my life.....
2006-10-17 08:33:28 · 3 answers · asked by svk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I see at least eight reasons above for NOT having a baby. You need counseling, not a baby.
2006-10-17 09:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first step would be to talk to your husband about your feelings, and how lonely you feel. See how he reacts to that first. I have to say, a baby will NOT replace your lonely feelings you have with your husband. If things don't change between the two of you, then they might always be that way.
I recently had a baby, and it was an accident, but welcomed. As a young child, I helped my parents with my younger siblings... so i thought I would be great, and it wouldn't be too bad. Nobody really tells you how much work it is having a child. My life revolves around my baby, and I rarely have any time for myself. Funny, but I have no time to even shower sometimes. Not having time for yourself can really wear you down, I feel 10 times older, and I'm young to begin with. My baby was colicky for the first two months- and I would cry along too because sometimes there wasn't anything I could do no matter what I tried.
One thing too, if you are depressed right now, I feel that may trigger post partum depression, which might not be good. It may not happen, but from some friends of mine who were depressed before they had kids, they went into further depression afterwards.
I say, if you are not happy with your husband, please talk to him and let him know your feelings. Honestly, if that doesn't work, he may not be the right one for you as hard as that may seem. If you are hating your life right now, it will only get harder if you have a baby. Try to see if things will get better with your husband and then when you two are great together, think about a family. See why he isn't ready for children yet. Try to be understanding too. Will he always be traveling a lot? Maybe he'd rather be a father when he's there all the time instead of away. I'm not really sure, but just look into everything.
2006-10-17 16:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO COUNSELING! A BABY WILL NOT MAKE THINGS BETTER, I PROMISE YOU! GOOD LUCK TO YOU!
2006-10-17 16:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by lisababyg ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋