Would it be wrong to have her birthday party at Thanksgiving dinner? She'll be three so I'm sure it wouldnt' matter her, but my thinking is that all of the family will be here then and she can have a GREAT birthday, but is it wrong to combine the two? Her actual birthday is Thanksgiving Day.
2006-10-17 08:02:30 · 19 answers · asked by justwondering 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I mentioned something to her grandmother and she told me it was disrespectful to my daughter that she doesn't have her own day. But, most of our family is from out of town and if we try to do it another day they won't get to be here, and her friends from daycare are traveling that weekend or having company of their own, so what good would a seperate party be?
2006-10-17 08:33:17 · update #1
I like the ideas to have a few friends over the next week, that's really good, thanks.
Also, I understand when she gets older she'll want the family one and one with just her friends, but at that point she'll understand why she's not having a part exactly ON her birthday, right now she doesn't :)
2006-10-17 08:53:07 · update #2
It is absolutely not disrespectful to combine the two. It would be disrespectful to wait and have it when the family has gone home! I'm sure she would will delight in having a cake at the table when all the family is there.
Why not have two parties? One with the family, then let her invite two friends for an afternoon later the next week.
When she's older perhaps your grandmother has a point, but only if your daughter voices that she wants her own day. In any case, do what YOU think is right.
2006-10-17 08:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My daughter definitely knew what a b-day was at 3. If you want to do something while all the out of town family is there, then maybe a small cele with just family that day. Then, a party with her friends like the first or second week of Dec.
Your grandma is right. Your daughter should have a special day that celebrates just her and her existence on this earth, the whole point of a b-day. My niece was born Xmas Eve and we always celebrate her b-day around 1/18 so she has a special day and doesn't get jipped on gifts. If I were in your situation, I personally would pick a day about 2-weeks before Thanksgiving and designate that as her unofficial b-day every year.
2006-10-17 19:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by nativeAZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be great, especially at age 3. My son's birthday is on the 22nd so when it falls on Thanksgiving weekend we always have a family party later on that day. Now that he's older we do try to have a party with his friends that is separate from the holiday, but he loves having his birthday on Thanksgiving because all of his cousins can come to his party.
2006-10-17 15:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Uncles birthday falls on Thanksgiving every few years and we always combine the two it has become a family tradition and really the only time that all 5 of my grandmothers children are ever together at once don't feel its wrong when you are just showing your child the true meaning of a family being together
2006-10-17 15:20:18 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Ta Loca♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cool! That would be so wonderful to celebrate a birthday when so many family members are available! And, the person celebrating is so young. It is never WRONG to have fun with your kids!
My husband & I were married on Thanksgiving Day so we can celebrate on 2 days, sometimes.
2006-10-17 15:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by auntbobbye 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a wonderful idea. How nice you want to include your whole family. Your daughter will love all the attention.
You can do something just "your" family the day of her birthday.
A special lunch or dinner out. A small cake.
2006-10-17 15:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by Ontario_Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do two parties then. One for the out of town family who will be in for Thanksgiving and wont be able to make it for her actual party then do another one just about her... no turkey included.
2006-10-17 15:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was also born on Thanksgiving but it does not fall on the holiday every year. I do throw her party on Thanksgiving if it lands on it and it is so convenient to do so. Nothing wrong with it! Even on the times that it does not land on it, my family still brings her gift with them!
2006-10-17 15:16:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would be wrong as long as your planning to have Thanksgiving at your house. That would make it so much easier on you. Everyone would already be there. I think you would have a better outcome if you have it on that day rather than waiting and having it that weekend.
2006-10-17 15:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by concern1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes grandmothers just like to have an opinion other than yours....its nothing bad its just how some are...she is only three and the important thing is for you to make her feel like it is her day...tell her she should be thankful to have it on a day when all the family is there...have fun, dont stress, and enjoy your daughter and the family on HER day...-good luck!
2006-10-17 15:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by Carmen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋