we were together 2 years we broke up he left me.we been apart 3 weeks now.i miss him he dontc all only for his things.well i broke down n called him when he calle dme back this morn ,he aked what i wanted hope to give me my things.i said no i miss u and i love u do u love me are u in love with me he said iam but im happier and i dont wanna do things that we done to hurt u anymore etc..i asked if i can see him he agreed too see me but he anst me to bring his important papers to him and some things which i will.but will he havefeelins when he sees me how can i make him see me diffrently will his heart change by seeing again?i love him so much.he said hell chill with me for a hour.does this seem like a good sign or what?
2006-10-17 08:02:14 · 20 answers · asked by cbutterflyc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In reality i think you just need to give this time. 2 years can't be erased in 3 weeks and holding his things isn't going to make him love you. Trying to force him to love you or be with you will only make him resent you.. I think on this one you should try friendship and if the both of you (in the long run) decide a relationship on a higher level is what you BOTH want then it would be time to go for it. But a onesided relationship is not what you want and if he loves you he won't allow.
2006-10-17 08:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Que 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, you shouldn't read into this visit too much. Sounds like he feels bad that your sad so he is going to hang with you for a while, this DOES NOT mean that he want to get back together. Just be cool and give him a little space. Stay in touch with him, but don't be overbearing. If he really loves you, he will come back around. If not, move on.
2006-10-17 15:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Steve L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this will go well. Men like to chase, not be chased. The only way you're going to remain a sane person in his mind is to simply let him go, start taking really good care of yourself, and find new friends. Don't ever call him again. Leave him alone. You are worth soooo much more than this guy. You really are.
2006-10-17 15:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you're getting your hopes up. You don't want him to hurt you again so go and give him his things with a friend. Trust me, I still love my ex but he hasn't called me forever and I know I'm better off without him now. If this guy isn't loving you, begging you to get back together, he's not worth it. You deserve someone better.
2006-10-17 15:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Lorraine_us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want someone who does't want you - do you? I know it hurts right now, but you have to move on. Call up a girlfriend and go out for a drink. Also - keep in mind that if he were to ever want you back, he's not going to want someone who's crying all the time and whining and begging. He's going to want some one who has a smile on her face and her head held high. Work on you right now. F&%* him. If it's meant to be it'll happen - if not why worry - enjoy yourself.
2006-10-17 15:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by autumn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The harder you try to be with him, the more he's going to pull away. The best thing to do is be nice to him, and let him see that you're fine without him. Go out with your other friends and talk to other guys. When he finds out, he'll be more likely to come running back to you. In the meantime you'll be having fun. You may even decide that you're better off without him.
2006-10-17 15:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anna Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-17 15:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he just wants his stuff backs and dosn't want to upset you. You need to come to terms with the fact that it is over. he said he is happier now. just accept it, let him go and keep yourself busy so you can move on from this relationship. of course you hurt and it's sad, but there is no sense in trying to gethim back - if he wanted to be witth you, he would be.
it will take time to mourne the loss of your dreams together. keep busy and you will see that you will get stronger everyday and get past this difficult time.
2006-10-17 15:23:43 · answer #8 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone like you and you have to respect that...also why would you want to be with someone who does not feel the same...It will be tough at first but you just have to hold your head up high, be a STRONG woman and just let things happen as they may.....that's really all you can do.
2006-10-17 15:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by mary w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he definitely doesn't want to get back with you but he's trying to make you feel better by hanging out with you. You need to accept and respect his feelings, you can't force someone to love you as that isn't love, it's control. It wouldn't be nice for either of you if you made him come back to you and he didn't feel happy. He wants to move on and as hard as it is you need to move on to. Once you move on you will find someone else who does love and want to be with you.
2006-10-17 15:40:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋