just want to know what u think. please be sincere.?

Question

as a christian, would you abort a baby that came about as a result of rape?. if yes, why would you want to keep a reminder of an event like rape?

Answer 1

Yes I would keep the baby because out of something tragic came a blessing of healing and a new day with a gift from God. There is nothing that will cause you to forget being raped, it is how you heal and deal with it yourself that makes the difference. I have been raped but I did not get pregnant, but if I had, I would not have aborted the baby.

Some women might look at their child as a reminder and then everytime something happens to the child, will throw it up in their face how they were conceived. But that is not right either and means the mother has her own coping issues with the situation.

You cannot blame an innocent baby for what happens between two adults.

Answer 2

I am a Christian. I would not abort a baby conceived in rape. The baby did not commit any wrong doing and does not deserve to be destroyed for a sin of it's father. If it were my choice alone, I would keep the baby. However, I am married and would consider my husband's feelings as well. If he could not bear to have another man's baby in the house, than I would choose adoption for the baby. I heard a speaker and her daughter once. The daughter was a product of rape. Her mother tried to abort the baby, but the procedure did not work and she decided it was a sign that she should keep the baby. The daughter is a beautiful, intelligent adult woman now. Mother and daughter are very close and provide a love and support to one another that is special. The mother said that her daughter is not a reminder of the rape, but is a reminder that God loved her so much that he gave her something good out of a horrible thing.

Answer 3

I'm curious why you frame this as a Christian issue... it's a moral issue. I'm an atheist and very pro-life.

To abort is to murder. The sole, single exception is if the mother cannot make it to the fetus's ability to be viable (currently, around five months). In that situation, the pregnancy is terminable morally because without the mother, the child will die, and if the mother dies, the child will die, so the child is already condemned; save the mother.

Did you know that women who conceive from rape who carry the child to term, and either keep it or put it up for adoption, have a vastly lower rate of suicide and major clinical depression? Abortion is a powerful psychological and biological trauma to a woman (the research backs this up). To allow a rape victim an abortion is to allow the double trauma of rape and the abortion.

We ban drugs because they cause a potential harm to others. In this case, the doctor is causing demonstratably likely harm to the woman. This is a violation of the principle of legally preventing harm and the Hippocratic Oath -- "and above all else, to DO NO HARM." [emphasis in the original].

And I base this on understanding the science of pregnancy, not a dogmatic book or what others tell me to believe.

Answer 4

While I do think abortion can be permissable in cases of rape, and I have no idea what the trauma would do to me...but as I am now, untraumatized, in my personal, current circumstances, I would probably at least carry the child to full term, and then be faced with the decision to keep it or give it to adoption.

My situation is that I'm a married woman actually trying to get pregnant with my husband, so how would I know who the father was? I'm not sure there's a safe way to find that out early enough in the pregnancy to even really consider abortion as an option.

That's just my current situation.

Answer 5

In any case of rape, I pray the woman involved will be given an opportunity to take the morning after pill. No woman should have to carry the child of a rapist. I do not agree with abortion, but would not blink my Christian eye at taking the morning after pill in a case such as this. Adoption is an alternative but I do not think that being a Christian means that a woman has to carry a reminder with her for the next 9 months. Just because a woman is a Christian does not mean she should be punished for a rape commited against her by being forced to carry a reminder around inside her. That is cruel and a very unloving Christain thing to do to any woman.

Answer 6

I can answer this ...

Yes, I'd keep a baby conceived from rape. Reason is because if the child were not meant to be conceived it wouldn't have occured. It's not about "keeping a reminder of an event like rape" it's a baby, a child, a human ... who am I to take away that child's life. Life and death are not left up to me ... only God can rule this decision. People do abort. I strongly disagree. Everyone is entitled to there on choices ... but for me, I couldn't do it.

Answer 7

Okay, i know I am no longer a Christian but I used to be and had very strong opinions about this, which I no longer hold, but since I understand that way of thinking please allow me to answer anyway.



Some believe that life is so holy and precious that a rape victim if a Christian would carry the baby through the term and then give it away to be adopted by a loving couple.

Answer 8

Rape is a tough situation when it comes to the topic of abortion. There is a lot of shame from women who are raped (wrongfully so, they are the victims in the situation, society just makes them feel shame), but is personal shame more important then the life of an unborn child? Absolutely not, there is a good chance you will feel more pain for aborting the child rather than carryhing that child around.

Answer 9

I wouldn't. A child, any child, is a gift. A child would be one way of turning something ugly such as rape into something lovely such as motherhood.

To think of any living creature as some reminder of evil is just bizarre to my way of thinking.

I attended a conference on abortion. There was a video of women talking about what triggered the trauma of the abortion table. So trying to escape one memory would just seem to trigger another one.

Women talked about how seeing a child caused them pain over the child they "lost" even though it was their own choice.

Women talked about how the clink of silverware at the dinner table reminded them of the clink of the doctor's instruments and how for years some of them couldn't figure out why this particular clink caused them pain.

Women talked about certain smells, the physician's cologne or the nurse's perfume sending them into anxiety attacts. But they didn't know why until years later.

Answer 10

There is NO right or wrong answer here. It's a personal choice.

Keeping the baby, adoption, and abortion all have pros and cons. If you are in this situation I would strongly suggest getting counseling to help determine which is the best for you. And get counseling from a place that supports all three options.

When life gives you lemons you make lemonade. When life gives you sperm you make babies?

I think the fact that you throw in the whole Christian thing throws a different spin on it though. It's murder.

I don't think abortion is wrong - but I do think it's a form of murder.

If a person kills a woman who is pregnant that's considered 2 counts of murder - not one.

If a person is not going to be able to love that baby or resent it though then it's better to give it up or don't have it at all.