is it a bad idea to become a girl friends first before asking her out
i think it is just wanna know what you think
2006-10-17 07:50:02 · 28 answers · asked by chuy85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if you are trying to be her boyfriend by being friends first, it is dangerous.
A. You should be their friend in order to have a good relationship
B. But if you are just friends and then you pop out with I've always been very attracted to you and want to be more than friends, she is going to freak and not trust you.
C. It is better to ask her out and let her know you are attracted to her.
D. If she sees you as just a friend, or a really good friend she won't see you as a lover.
2006-10-17 08:01:29 · answer #1 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the line between friendship and dating is a very fine line... one wrong step and it can cause big problems... what I mean is, ppl should become friends while dating... some times it happens the other way, but from what I have seen over the years, crossing that line more often than not ends in divorce, you just know each other to well, or the friendship gets in the way some how... hard to explain !!! so I suggest, dating and taking the time to get to know each other, take it slow !!! do NOT push the physical side of things..... talk about the dreams each of you have, the future you each want, etc........ take the time to become loving friends........ intimate friends..... there is a difference in those two kinds of friendships than the regular type...... i hope you understand what I am trying to say......... God bless
2006-10-17 08:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is different for everyone. I personally do not think that you should be friends first with the one you are wanting to be with. You end up losing that friend if things go wrong. Besides, a friendship is apart of a great relationship when the two are TRULY in love, your partner becomes and is your BEST friend. Blessed be.......
2006-10-17 07:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes, yes. sometimes, no. if the girl in question is a jovial, nice person, become friends first...it can only help your case. if this person is a party girl and is incredibly wild and uncontrolled, stay away. if the person is a fling type, becoming friends might not work all that well. good luck, buddy.
2006-10-17 07:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINATELY NOT!!!!!!! My fiancee and I started off as friends, we are now bestfriends and have a beautiful wonderful fairy tale type relationship. No one knows me better than he does. All women want a man that is their man and their bestfriend. I can come home from having a horrible day and he'll know just by looking at me. He knows all my hopes, dreams, fears, goals, what hurts me, what makes me happy, etc... We've argued maybe 4 times in a year. I know what makes him angry and don't do it, he knows what makes me angry and doesn't do it. We just have this fairy tale type of relationship all because we started off as friends. We watch sports together, all our families love the other one, we go ot together, it's us, our worlds revolve around each other.
2006-10-17 07:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck NO, it's not bad!! That will enable you to get to know one another before 'dating'. Hell, who knows...you may decide she's really not your type! Remember the song..."How can we be lovers if we can't be friends"? There ya go...become friends and see where it takes the 2 of you!!
Best wishes~
2006-10-17 07:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by Q... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not bad at all...some prefer friends first, some become friends and lovers at about the same time....some skip friends altogether and just date (but those situations don't tend to last too long).
2006-10-17 07:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it acutally makes the relationship stronger and last longer. You have to know a perosn before you take an extra step with them. Good luck
2006-10-17 08:01:45 · answer #8 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it is, i speak from experience, my last three relationships have been where i din't know em, and i liked em, and i asked em out, or they asked me out, and they all ended badly, you should become friends first because then you will know if they are the type of person you would want to be around alot
2006-10-17 07:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by krash726 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a guy gets on my "just friends" list. There is no way I will sleep with them. I'll go out with them, have dinner with them, go to concerts with them, etc. but thats it.
You need to decide if you want to be a love interest or a friend and act accordingly.
2006-10-17 07:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋