My parents & my husbands parents are divorced and remarried with more kids. We are now married with a child of our own. Every holiday is spent running from house to house trying to visit everyone. It gets really complicated and quite frankly really old year after year. I think it would only be fair to our son (who is now 13 months) to start staying home for the holidays. Or at least at Christmas time. Coming from a broken family myself I know personally how it is to have so many places to visit and never getting to stay home and enjoy myself. I would like to start having Christmas at our house. The only problem is that our families also have families that they have over for the holidays. How do I convince them that they should start coming to our house? My husbands step mother to be exact. She has a big beautiful house that she loves to entertain in so I'm afraid they wouldn't come over at all due to the fact that she always has holiday parties. Am I being selfish? Help!
2006-10-17 07:47:38 · 12 answers · asked by It's a secret 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Coming from a similar background, my family does things a bit different. We have a very large extended family, some with bigger homes and others with little ones. We usually get together at my husband's mother's home on Christmas eve with all of my husband's family and extended family. Christmas morning is always at our own home with our own family. Christmas day dinner is with different family members, usually whomever has made the time to spend with us, sometimes even at our own home. You just have to make the calendar in advance, everyone is usually up to it, we all have our own families and want to make our own memories with them - it is just a special time that all should be willing to compromise with, ya know? Prayers =)
2006-10-17 07:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in a broken family. I spent 1/2 day with each parent. When I got married (husband from a broken home too)I had all the holidays @ my home on a invited, scheduled, multi-meal deal. I left it up to each if they wanted to be a part of my children's holiday. They dealt with it, but you be prepared for other problems... You will be more stressed and tired after wards. Now with the children grown, husband an EX-husband, my new husband & I spend the holidays alone together and see the family the day before or after the holiday. Finally...... A HAPPY HOLIDAY! Good Luck!
2006-10-17 08:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by valerie b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the weeks leading up to Christmas invite the other family members over for small get together - say to decorate the tree, make cookies or some other holiday tradition. Stay home for Christmas - let your son play in the gift wrap and boxes as long as he wants. The day after Christmas invite relatives - the ones that get along - for leftovers and exchange presents then. Don't stress - enjoy your little family Christmas. Our daughter took 3 days to open her presents - playing in boxes etc. to her hearts content. When extended family was around it always became a greed fest to see what was in the next box.
2006-10-17 08:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by justwondering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem and I have three children. What I did was volunteer to have the holiday at my house, actually it went over very well because they could kick back and relax instead of having to prepare everything.
NOW the big problem... getting everyone to attend, explain to them they will be meeting in the future for many events of your childs and they need to be mature enough to bless their ex's new marriages and MOVE on. This was the hardest thing for my mom to do, but after 3 years she's come a long way and has no problem being in the same room as everyone else.
GOOD luck.... happy holidays.. hopefully in your home ;)
2006-10-17 07:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by razzyrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to swing from house to house with small children. If all parents get along or are willing to put aside their issues invite all over to a covered dish dinner. That way you won't be stuck with all the cooking and everyone will enjoy the evening. If they are not willing to do this then it's their loss for a holiday get together.
2006-10-17 08:06:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I come from dis functional family's in denial.They think there is nothing wrong with the way they treat people but let me tell you something.You have a family.The day you walked down the isle with that man you made your own family those other people are now your relatives and they can take or leave your family. They are going to run you and your family ragged if you let them.
2006-10-17 07:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by roni_lane81981 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think christmas should be in your own house. Go visit them the next day or in the evening. I'm a muslim and that is what we do. Ramadan at home and in the evening go visit my parents and the next day my wife's parents
2006-10-17 07:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having 12 human beings for Christmas dinner is verging on the grasping fringe of issues previous bean. attempt in basic terms a splash turkey and a few greens... ...Oh pass on it`s Christmas, what am i admire ! manage your self, basically have a small newborn or 2...tease the little rats, say you will in basic terms consume the naughty ones, then warmth up the oven and right now grasp the main properly behaved newborn AND the cutest one ! How the others will snigger ...`tis the season to be jolly...Ho Ho Ho ! MERRY CHRISTMAS all of us !
2016-10-19 21:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do one year at your house, one year at your mother's, etc, and keep rotating. Someone is likely to feel put out, insulted, left out, whatever, but that's life.
2006-10-17 07:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope... if you make it a point not to go.. then they will make it a point to come visit... if they call your bluff this year and not show up then they will know next year... i love it at home with just me and mine.... everyone Else can go do there own thing i like here at home..
2006-10-17 07:54:35 · answer #10 · answered by panda 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋