For a wedding gift a family gave us a doiley with our invitation pinned to it. My husband took it as an insult, but I don't know. It's the family of this guy that I dated for a very short while, but the family acted like we were going to get married or something, and were shocked when I stopped dating him. Anyways, they are really into making homemade gifts like quilts, wooden things, and stuff like that, so was it meant to be an insult or not? What do you think.
2006-10-17 07:29:04 · 13 answers · asked by Ferosia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We received our invitation framed in stained glass as a wedding gift. We have it hanging in our living room because it is really beautiful with the glass around it, & it reminds us of that special day.
I guess a doiley, is kind of the same thing , for the same reason. It is definately not an insult, however I wonder why they felt the need to give you a gift at all.
2006-10-17 08:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! What were they thinking? Did they come to your Wedding and did they eat dinner, did they drink? You said this was from a "Family"....If so then they are either really cheap or were just being mean, because most people invited would figure the cost of dinner's and their drink's when going out and put that amount or more into a card. Personally I would take that jesture as a slap in the face, I would sign a thank you card and not elaborate on the gift and forget these insensitive, cheap people. Your husband was I sure more hurt that they were invited in the first place. Get on with your Married Life and just enjoy each other and do not obsess about it anymore. Congratulation's and Best Wishes to You and Your Husband.
2006-10-17 09:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you read the card they (hopefully) gave you? Usually the card explains unusual gifts. Also, did they attend the wedding? If so, it was probably meant as a thoughtful gift. If not, it might have been a "screw you, we're not going to your wedding" type of "gift."
If they did not give you a card, you might want to ask them personally... you could make a comment about how "unusual" the gift was, and hopefully they will say something like "well, we thought it would look very nice in your wedding album," or "the doiley was made by my great-grandmother." Who the heck knows? It's certainly a strange choice for a wedding present.
2006-10-17 09:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they wanted to get you something meaningful and they may or may not be short on cash. My grandmother gave us (or me rather) her hankerchief that she carried on her wedding day framed in a shadow box.
My husband has an uncle that is a preacher. He wrote a book (not published, just photocopied and stapled together- like a high school graduation booklet) about how to make your marriage last through the love of god. I'm not overly religous and neither is my husband but it was the thought that counts.
2006-10-17 08:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 16:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they didn't mean to insult yo, they definetly don't have any social skills or etiquette.
Send a thank you card and toos the doley. It's bad karma and it will always make your husband feel insulted.
Why would you invite your ex-flame family for your wedding anyway? You set yourself up for this one.
Good luck
2006-10-17 09:07:51 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It definitly is different, I can say that for sure. If they are really into making stuff, maybe they felt that the gift was appropriate.
I would just say include an additional note in your thank you cards that notes how special the homemade gift was.
2006-10-17 08:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care and even more important why were they invited to your wedding. You don't normally invite the family of an ex to your wedding. It wasn't an insult.
2006-10-17 09:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm well maybe its not an isult but it sounds UGLY...... It could be that they thought it could be a memento for you all to put in your album. Somethig to show your wedding invitation. Personally who cares, they are your ex's parents why were they even invited to the wedding??? I wouldn't stress about it, I am sure you got tons of great gifts, who cares about the other ones. Just move forward...... YOUR MARRIED!!! Gongrats.
2006-10-17 08:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
no its sweet that they even thought to send you a gift, your husband is probably more upset that it comes from an ex and has no monetary value ... i would keep it somewhere nice for you to look at since you'll appreciate it more.
2006-10-17 08:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋