my grandpa is very ill in the hospital. He is sick to the point that surgery and medicine wont help him get any better. I am so stressed out. Should i put off my wedding? What if the worst happens , should i not get married? I am so confused. I love my grandpa and would not be happy at my wedding if the worst happend and I dont think the rest of my family would either. What should i do?
2006-10-17 07:06:29 · 7 answers · asked by DDee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If he happens to pass away, yes, the right thing to do would be to postpone the wedding, sending out notices to everyone invited that it will be postponed. It would be in extremely poor taste to have a large celebration when the family is supposed to be in mourning.
However you still could have a simpler wedding on the date you planned to, and simply postpone the reception/festivities.
2006-10-17 13:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that your grandpa isn't doing well, but I don't think you should put off your wedding. Your grandpa loves you, and wants you to be happy, and I don't think that he would want you to put your life on hold while you were waiting for him to pass. I know that it's hard to stay strong in such a difficult time, but the truth is that no one really knows how long anyone will live. You can only be thankful for the brief but wonderful time you have together. Postponing your wedding will not help your grandpa to feel any better or live any longer, I'm sad to say.
From a purely practical standpoint, too, weddings are costly affairs and you would probably lose a lot of $$$ in deposits from canceling now. It'd also be quite logistically difficult calling all your vendors and guests and canceling. What about guests that already made travel reservations to attend your wedding? They would lose their deposits, too, on change fees. It's kind of inconsiderate to your guests, too.
You could consider still getting married, but postponing your honeymoon instead to spend more time with your grandpa, just in case. Postponing the honeymoon would be less costly and would not inconvenience anyone else other than you and your fiancee.
Best of luck...
2006-10-17 16:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by LB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love your grandpa and he loves you, i guess he would be happy to see you get married. the best thing to do is set the location near the hospital so you will feel that he's just there. and anything happens you'd be there quick to at least show your grandpa how you look on your wedding dress. and you can drop by before going straight to the reception. so look for the nearest reception.
2006-10-18 00:28:06 · answer #3 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with whichever of your parents he's the dad of, and get their advice. One of my grandmothers died the week before my sister's wedding, and my dad wanted to go ahead with everything. I think that would probably be the case with yours - everything is already planned and people will be coming.
2006-10-17 16:39:55 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what LB suggested, good-luck and sorry to hear about your grandpa.
2006-10-17 20:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by sexy_latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your parents and see what the general feeling is...and what would grandpa want you to do...go forward and be happy??!
2006-10-17 19:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU WILL PROBABLY AND MAYBE NEED TO POSTPONE THE WEDDING
2006-10-17 21:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by babycristy13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋