Some people i no think its dead cheeky but i kinda think its pretty practical, solves the dilemma in people wondering what to buy you and you getting stuck with all kinds of junk and ten toasters etc.
what you think ??
2006-10-17 06:58:31 · 17 answers · asked by Caz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Of course it's not rude or cheeky - as long as you have some low priced stuff on there too for people who don't have that much to spend. I thought everyone had a gift list these days, it makes sense otherwise your right you'd end up with ten toasters!
2006-10-17 23:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's definitely not rude to have a wedding list, I know as a guest at a wedding I would prefer to buy the couple something that they need/really want/will use often rather than something that will be put at the back of a cupboard never to be seen again!
As to whether to put details of your list with the invitation, I think only you can gauge the reaction of your guests. We have put the gift list details in with our invitation as I know our guests well, and I was certain that no-one would not be offended by this. I have to say also I have never been offended by receiving a wedding invitation with gift list details in. If, however, you feel that your guests may feel that this is rude, then best to leave it out BUT make sure that someone from both of your families knows where your list is, as people may not want to ask you directly!
2006-10-17 23:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by Little Bo Peep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were uncomfortable with asking people to choose a gift from a list and we already lived together so had most stuff. We were given the most amazing presents, things we wouldn't have asked for and so they seemed all the more special and the money people were kind enough to give us meant we could have an amazing time on our honeymoon without having to worry about having to then pay the bills. Would definately recommend no list.
2006-10-17 10:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by esmequeenoftheworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi on your wedding day it is tradition to make a wedding list, as you said so your guest know what to buy you. At the end of the day they will rather get you something you like than rather you not use it and it be a waste of money. People dont useually thinkits rude to have a wedding list but they think its rude to askfor money. But im getting married next year and we are asking for money as we dont have the room to put items we recieve and as them going to waste it would be a waste of money. Which is a similar way to recieve the wedding list. It is your wedding you can do what you want to do. But having a wedding list it is fine so dont worry.
2006-10-17 10:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude to have a modest gift suggestion list, but it IS rude to publicize your own list through slips in the invitations, or on your website, or through a mass email, etc.
Couples must WAIT TO BE ASKED about their gift preferences and then they can let that person know "Oh, we registered for a few things we really liked at Pottery Barn, but I'm sure whatever you feel like gifting us will be just lovely..." Also, the parents and maid of honor should know about the gift list registry, so they can also field queries.
It's also rude to have a honeymoon registry, any type of "registry for money", or to register for gift certificates. It's also improper to register for money to be sent to charity.
2006-10-17 13:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not at all!
asking for cash is rude, asking for gifts that will be useful to you is better!
id rather get something someone will use not put in a cupboard or take back to get vouchers!
my friend is getting married and has asked for cash only... now that is blinking rude!
there was even a written request in the invitations i felt embarrased!
her choice though! dont feel embarrassed just make sure there is a variety for everyone people who have money adn poeple who dont! some people still wont take to it you might still get vouchers etc... easier for people as well it can be done online now as well!
2006-10-17 23:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by caroline17nov 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's very rude you could be putting people in a corner they cant afford to get out of , and getting stuck with " all kind's of junk " that people have taken the trouble to buy for you is also very rude !
2006-10-17 22:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by nicemanvery 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here, the bride and groom go to local stores, whether expensive home stores for china and crystal, or department stores, Target, Home Depot, etc and pick out what they would like to have from that store. Then along with the invitation is a list of the places they are registered. You go to the store of your choice and they have a printed out list you get for that couple with all of their wished on it. Then you can get something they really want and you can choose something in your price range. Most of them the high price items are for family or friends that want to go in together with their money to buy a large priced item.
2006-10-17 09:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a registry, put where you are registered at on shower invites since the purpose of showers is for people to bring you gifts, and that will just make it easier. BUT FOR THE LOVE OF GOD! Don't put anything regarding gifts on your actual wedding invites, that is "dead cheeky"
2006-10-17 09:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah and better still tell them where the list is on invitation mt mates got married n they ad there own house so they had a list IN YES IN argos .people jus go in and ask 4 the list of bride n groom whoever then they tick wat youve bout and the bride n groom dont get same thing twice an will also know who bought what ...you can do this in a lot of places like argos ,m&s etc good luck
2006-10-17 10:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by ASHLEIGH H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋