Christians: why are some of you so judgemental?

Question

Considering your religion decrees that only god is allowed to judge...how do you explain this flagrant hypocrisy?

Wideeyes, your parents did a bang up job raising you, as you seem to be a fine human being. Thanks for treating me with respect, even though I don't always deserve it...

Look, my two favorite christians in one place!

Answer 1

i feel like they make other Christians look bad...i am not perfect. i am not even close. never will be. i do love God and i practice my faith on my own terms-do my own thing. many people of the church have pushed me away-they don't just judge "sinners," mutterhals-they judge me as well-a fellow "sister"-you know what i mean? they judge other people in the church, other believers, etc. it sucks.
in a few of your posts you have really pissed me off and i think at times you have been disrespectful to this online Christian community just to get a rise out of these people-but here, i agree with you wholeheartedly. just know that there are still good Christians out there, good people in general...

Answer 2

Well, since I don't know you and I don't know your situation, I might not be able to help much, but here's a few thoughts on the issue.

Here's what Jesus said in Matthew 7:

1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.

2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.

3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?

I think the bottom line here is that Jesus doesn't want us accusing each other or judging each others motives. After all, we're all human and we all have faults.

However, people often take offense when they are told something they are doing is wrong and instantly scream "Stop judging me!" Case in point: my dad told a lady who had a live-in boyfriend while she was still married to another man (although they were separated at the time) that she was committing adultery. Was he judging her? No, he was simply pointing out what the Bible says. He wasn't judging her, God was. So if someone tells you you're doing something wrong before saying "Stop judging me!" consider the source. If it's the Bible, they're not judging you, God is, but if it's coming from their own little mind, then it's judging.

Answer 3

Some are judgmental because it makes them feel pious to be able to say in not so many words...I am better than you. It is up to God to judge. I look at it like this:
I did not create the world, I did not die a horrible death to give anyone grace, therefore I am not worthy to take His place on the judgment seat. Anyone who feels like they can drink from the same cup..I say power to you but until the time God steps down and hands someone else the reigns, I think we all need to worry about our own weeds before we tend to our neighbors garden.

Answer 4

I'm a Christian and I don't judge people, all people make mistakes, some mistakes are different than others, but I don't look down on them, because I know that I make mistakes as well, and yes God is the only one to judge.

Answer 5

Because a lot of them are pretentious, conceited, slimy, rotten people. They want rewards they haven't earned, they want someone else to atone for their sins-what do you expect from people like that? High minded morality and Christianity don't go together. And the clown who has posted before me is a perfect example-God bless my ar$e. Like he really means it.

Answer 6

I think Jesus exemplified how we are supposed to approach situations and other people. Every act has two lenses through which it can be explained--using one without the other is pointless. These two lenses include the objective and the subjective aspects of an act. Christianity shows us how to judge the objective aspects of an act, but teaches us (as you point out in your question) not to judge the subjective aspects of an act.
Case in point: In Christianity, sex outside of marriage is seen as a sinful act. Paul brings the subject of fornication up in his letters numerous times. Also, Jesus talks about lusting as a form of adultery. The list goes one, but I think I've made the point. But the subjective aspects of sex outside of marriage are not known to us, so we cannot judge a person--we don't know what's in his heart. To use my example of sex outside of marriage, what about a woman who is raped? Objectively, sex outside of marriage is wrong, but subjectively, this woman has committed no sin. Is there anyone who would argue with this? Again, to give a grayer area of this example, what about someone who has sex outside of marriage, but did not know that God teaches us that this is wrong. Is this person guilty of sinning? Again, I think not. I think, as a Christian, that although I am called to bring up any objective truths when the subject is brought up to me, I am also called to give every benefit of the doubt to persons whom it would appear are doing something objectively wrong. Unfortunately, I am not always perfect at this (but I keep trying and I think I am improving with God's grace). I think other Christians also fall into this sin (of judging others) as you point out, and you are right in calling this hypocrisy. I pray that God continues to give me the grace to help me grow with regards to this tendency.
Thank you for holding us accountable! Thanks for reading and God Bless!

P.S. I really mean "God Bless" when I say it, too!!!

Answer 7

Why? Because they never learned the lesson of The Pharisee and The Publican.

Answer 8

But understand that God in his judgement made some things crystal clear, so when we quote HIS judgement, we are not being judgemental ourselves.

Answer 9

Sometimes you have to be brutally honest with people.Some people take that as judgemental but there is often no other option.God bless.