please give a wise answer
2006-10-17 06:45:14 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is not always the case... people that this applies to probably haven't been hurt enough to realize not to put themselves out there for people that aren't worthy
2006-10-17 06:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because for some women that is all they know. More then likely the woman has a childhood hsitory of some sort of abuse ( mental,physical) and when they reach adulthood they think that its normal and this is how it should be. They equate the abuse to mean love.
Also women who have low self esteem will stay in a relationship where the man treats them like crap, because they feel they cannot do better or they don't deserve to have a man that treats them good.
Please note I did not say all women I said some. I hope this helps.
2006-10-17 07:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by E_E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess alot depends on the age. Women may feel they are not good enough for anyone else. It is mainly a self esteem issue. Besides that alot of women feel they like to finish what they start. We are with someone and put a little time in, then we feel its our resposibility to keep it together. Let me give you a lil light. I am 29 and in a 3 mo relationship. Never been happier. Until now I was in relationships like that. If you want someone who is in that position, dont bother because she'll push you away. You never really know when it will happen. Good luck!
2006-10-17 07:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't that we love to feel hurt, we are just moron magnets. For some reason (probably stems from childhood) we were taught by parents, peers, and others that we were not worthy of love and respect. Our self-esteem(or lack thereof) continues to enable us to make bad choices when it comes to men. We pick men that we know are not healthy choices, ignore our gut instincts about them because we are so starved for love and affection that we feel we can tolerate any behavior from them as long as we can feel loved for a little while. It is sickness within a sickness. Low self-esteem coupled with co-dependence. We need to break the cycle and let all men know that we are beautiful, smart, strong women, and that we will not tolerate anything less than being treated with the utmost dignity and r-e-s-p-e-c-t!!!!!
2006-10-17 07:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when this happens the womans self esteeme leve is so low and there self perseptive of themself is not what it really is.Some are mentally abuised by the man to the point they think there worthless and no one will want them so they stay to leach on so they have something even though it's not a good situation.
Abusive realtionship are hard to get out of and some women think that the man can change, well sadly he never was any differnt. They couldn't see him for who he was when they meet.
2006-10-17 07:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by Juleette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women don't "love" to feel hurt, but they often choose to feel pain when a guy doesn't reciprocate their feelings...some guys do it too, but it's definitely more of a chick thing...
No one likes rejection, so it's natural to get upset or feel some kind of pain (maybe a little, maybe a lot depending on the situation)...
We hurt because we want them to like us...we want them to be the person we thought they were...but if we were realistic, we'd realize they aren't what we really want and be happy to discover that and know we still have the opportunity to meet someone who is a good match...
2006-10-17 07:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two reasons:
1.) Personal insecurity or settling for what they think is the best they can get or deserve.
2.) The same obsession that plagues most women...relationship security or the fear that leaving that person will spell a lifetime of loneliness.
And also what some dude said earlier...irrational thought. It's the demise of all humans...men and women.
2006-10-17 07:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by Justin G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that a woman likes or loves to be hurt, but when you actually care about someone it's hard for a woman to step outside of that situation to see what's really going on. Often women feel they can change that person...and that's never the case, but they still try.
2006-10-17 07:04:02 · answer #8 · answered by aak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some women have very low self esteem and they stay with the person because they think they cant get any better. They dont love to feel hurt, but they feel if they leave then they will have no one in there life and no one that loves them.
2006-10-17 07:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by Virginia Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that we love to be hurt by a man. Its the fact that women have this need to fix everything, so if a man is treating us like crap, we like to think that we can make everything better if we just talk about it, and try to come to a resolution.
I personally have given that up.....if a guy is gonna treat me like crap then i am just gonna let him go to find a woman who will take his ****, b.c. there is going to be someone out there that will treat me better, and i would rather be single and wait for that person to come along than to be in a crappy relationship.
2006-10-17 07:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is as wise as they come.......Because most girls need to feel challenged just like you guys. We like bad boys. We like to have a challenge. But don't worry. We grow out of that and learn to face the facts and become wiser. Bad Boys will hurt you and once you get hurt enough, then you'll move on to the nice boys.
2006-10-17 07:37:15 · answer #11 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋