women 's dressing at church needs reform?

Question

im sick of this crap where women dress like whores at church. if you wanna come naked...then come naked! fine. come as god made you. or else put some clothes on. not these short shorts and tight shorts and bell buttons hangin out. that is just teasing men. either come nude or come fully clothed. anywhere in between is flaunting.

Answer 1

sounds like you haven't gotten laid in a real long time....

Answer 2

I'm afraid that I would have to agree with you. I realize that this is the 21st century, and that we are not Muslims (no offense to the Muslins), but the apostle Peter did admonish women to dress modestly, and the apostle Paul did warn people not to do anything that might unduly lead others into temptation, or otherwise cause offense. I noticed that many pastors do not like to preach on modesty anymore, least they sound overly legalistic or strict. But it IS in the Bible.

I've seen answers that imply that if you are tempted by women wearing sexy clothes, then it must be your fault somehow, like you are deliberately checking out what other people wear (in order to judge), or you have not disciplined your mind enough to resist being influenced by what you see. I am tired of that nonsense! People are trying to rationalize their sinful behavior by blaming you, the victim! Irregardless if you are strong or weak, the apostle Paul said that we should try to help the weak Christian, not judge or tempt him for his inherent weakness (Romans 14). I don't want to sound legalistic or old fashioned, but why can't people be considerate when they know full well that young men are naturally weak in this area?!?!?!

Why would anyone come to church dressed sexy anyway? Not just the single women looking for a husband, but some married women too. Obviously, some people are attention starved, but you should have came to church to focus your attention on God, not just to get attention for yourself.

Answer 3

It's not just church. It's work, court, weddings, funerals, PTA meetings, the theater and other more "formal" occasions.

I have racked my brain trying to figure out why this happens. Partly it is due to parenting. If your parents don't explain proper dress to you, how would you learn.

Another reason is our idolization of media/movie/rock stars. The clothes some of them wear are downright sleazy and I don't care if they paid $1000 for the shirt. Which leads to probably the biggest reason, a lot of people think that if they paid a lot of money for it, or it is a "name brand" then it must be acceptable and "dressy."

I worked in a very conservative office once and received a huge education on "proper" dress for all occasions. I really wish we would teach this in school as it is sometimes embarrassing to see what people wear. And it is obvious that there are a ton of people who have no taste whatsover.

Answer 4

I agree. I mean how ignorant can someone be. How hard is it to wear something presentable. If the person above wants to get into what it says in the bible, it is a sin for a woman to dress sexuallly in church because it leads a man to have sinful thoughts. The church is rediculous now adays. Its become acceptable to be sinful just because we're human. Thats bull because now no one is making ANY effort to do right. They just use the excuse that we're all human. What a cop out.

Answer 5

Yes, many women dress inappropriately, but from what I read about Jesus, he wouldn't make that his main issue. He is interested in hearts. It sounds like yours could use some softening.

If the clothing the women wear at your church is a stumbling block for you, you can look for a more conservatively-dressed congregation. Of course, they probably will have long since stopped reaching any lost people, but that doesn't seem to be your primary concern.

Answer 6

Dear 'Enema',

And what would YOU deem respectable church attire?

I live in an area of Old Order Mennonites, now while I may feel very dapper in what I wear to church, betcha they feel a bit different!

I do agree, that we should present ourselves at our best for church, but not for each others (including your) approval.

God may not care what we wear but we should.

Anyway, in respect to your reaction... calm down. Seriously, I have a feeling that if a naked woman did in fact sit down on the bench next to you, your eyes would not be on the hymnal either.

My point is: Sometimes the most modest attire can be the most alluring and sexy. Sometimes its in the eye of the beholder.

What bothers you may not bother the next person. But what you find acceptable could be offensive to your neighbour.

Answer 7

Wow, that sounds like a serious issue. With all those women distracting the men from their praying its a wonder anything gets accomplished in church these days. When will women learn not to tease men and distract them from their efforts to save the world?

Yeah, and if you can't recognize the sarcasm there then you're too far gone already.

Answer 8

First of all, a real man of God, has disciplined his thoughts not to lust after a woman, no matter what she wears. As Job said himself I have made a covenant(committment;promise) with my eyes not to lust after a woman. Any church one goes to there will be women or men that dress as such, unless it is an old time pentecostal type church. Women should be have the freedom to dress in a way that is comfortable to them, in some areas during some seasons it is very hot(ie Phoenix);nevertheless women should use a some discernment(right reasoning & correct judgment)when dressing, for all that a believer does whether in word or deed should be done in the name of the lord. There are some slightly greys areas to this. Ultimately one is accountable to their own spirit within, which will praise their choices or give a feeling of guilt. Attitudes and intention of the heart is what God looks at. We ourselves can observe and without judgement. This is our way.

Answer 9

You need to find a church that has dress standards. That way, only the visitors who do not go to church will be dressed like that. I don't even own shorts or pants.

Answer 10

If everyone showed up at church nekkid, you'd be pagans. And it's called 'skyclad'.

I live half a block away from a church, and I have absolutely no desire to see any of them nekkid, thank you very much. They seem like nice enough people while they're in the parking lot (tho I did see one beating her kid at Meijer's for crying) but an attractive lot, they definitely ain't. I'm very grateful they wear clothing.

Please dress your women, christians. Let's limit the nudity to our own homes, naturalists and pagans.

~Morg~

Answer 11

I agree with you, except the come to church naked part. It makes you want to ask them, are you here to worship our Lord or attract men. We should be there only to unite with fellow believers to worship our Lord and learn from the preaching of His word. I fail to believe that women who dress that way aren't doing so to attract mens attention. They are fully aware of it and thrive on it. There is NO place for this for a Christian women. They should not be attracting men based on exposing themselves enough to draw sexual attention from a man.