2006-10-17 06:43:37 · 67 answers · asked by Help Needed 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't have a healthy relationship without trust. If it was one lie maybe you would work through it, but apparently it wasn't just one lie. Personally I would tell the guy to F off, but if you decide to stay with the guy, let him know he's on probation.
2006-10-17 07:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely would not take him back. If he lied to you once he will definitely do it again without even questioning it. If it was only like 1 or maybe 2 lies I would give him another chance cause everybody fall off at one point and time but since it's a lot, drop him to the side. There are many better fish in the sea.
2006-10-17 07:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by LadyofLuxury 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not trust him anymore nor take him back. it is the same concept with once a cheater always a cheater and once a lier always a lier. if he lied to you one too many times just sit down and think about how many thing he is trying to hide from you or he is hiding as well as bs'ing his way. for all that you know you could take him back and he could cheat on you or leave a double life. is it worth all the pain? look, i know you love the guy but he is too dumb to see that he has a good thing in front of him before it is too late...just walk away as hard as it may seem but it is for your own good. if he lies to you then what else does he do behind your back like when you were dating? i am not trying to sound mean but no guy should lie. he broke your trust and with no trust there is no relationship no matter how strong the bond between you two may be. if you take him back he will take full advantage of you and think of you as easy as well as naive-not the best terms-and that he can always pull anything off and you will take him back. good luck with whatever decision you choose!
2006-10-17 07:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been there done that, I realize now that it wasn't love-- it was some sort of twisted need that bonded us together. After the 5 year relationship ended last year, I realized that lying, among other things, are absolutely not allowable in any decent relationship, so now that I've learned that lesson, I can honestly say, I would NEVER take him back. I respect myself too much to tolerate that kind of chit. It took a lot of "take backs" before I figured it out. He can't be changed. I just gave up on the idea (fantasy) of us ever being happy together (if only...)..
2006-10-17 07:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Trust is something that is earned, not a given. If he lies, even about small things, how are you supposed to trust him? You can't be in a relationship with someone who lies to you.. If he lies about small things, you KNOW HE WILL LIE about the big ones too.Example: Are you doing drugs?, Are you seeing someone else? Did you take the money out of my purse? I'm not saying that people don't change and can't get over lying, but why take that chance, invest your heart and have it shattered by a truth that you knew anyway. Good Luck
2006-10-17 07:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can take him back if you think it's worth it and give him a satisfaction of a doubt. You love him, so you can give him another chance but not another chance to be lied to. Ask him why he lied about all that stuff and see what his response is. Because I've heard once a liar always a liar. But if it's worth it you should give it another try.
2006-10-17 07:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with lies can make for some very sleepless nites, do what is best for you even if you love him, if you are going to wonder about the past lies and dwell on them or wonder all the time if he is lying again, its not much of a life, lies & deceit can consume your thoughts and make your days so miserable, dont put yourself in a position to be lied to anymore, find yourself a good, honest man.
2006-10-17 07:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by lesa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you love him. If you love him, then you will give him another change. If you don't love him, you will just leave. Since you are asking, your heart is still with him. So talk to him about this, and your heart will tell you if he is going to tell you the truth or not. Of course the truth you will know, if it is a lie, you will just slap him and go home crying. At least you will have an answer.
2006-10-17 06:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex has lied to me so many times. He is the biggest freaking liar. He would lie about dumb stuff just to lie. He has been that way since he was a kid. I know his family real well, we have 3 kids together and one on the way. They say he has always been that way. I think it is something he can't stop. I have taken him back so many times. I still would. I just fell like he could be a really great person. Hun, I wouldn't advise it though. I know that it can really destroy you if you have a pathological liar on your hands.
2006-10-17 07:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by day dreamin baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I would not take him back. What you love is a memory of what it was in the beginning when things were wonderful and new. All that has changed now. He's proved himself to be a lying cad, but you still see him the old way. Sometimes love is not enough. This is one of those times. Show respect for yourself and drop this loser. He neither loves or respects you, therefore he is unworthy of your love.
2006-10-17 06:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋