What would you do if you are 29, single, no men around, but desperately want to have child?

Answer 1

have you heard of creamcheese spread? Is it really good on bagels?

Answer 2

My suggestion would be to:

first: look at your life. Are you in a position where you can provide for a child all on your own, give him/her a good home, provide food, clothes and most important your time and love?

second: If you answer yes to the above, then you should look at the options out there. You can have a one nite stand - wouldn't reccomend that cuz you really wouldn't feel good about how you concieved your child in the long run I don't think.

You could move and try and spark up a relationship and hope it leads to love and a baby (being married not a requirement to raise a happy healthy baby, my mom was a single mom and I turned out fine)

You could look again at all the prospects in your home town and make sure that you have to move to find love.

You could go to a sperm bank, but that is just cold and unfeeling I think. (Just my opinion, lots do it. but that is the choice that is right for them and I think if that is their choice then I am happy for them and hope they have a happy healthy child)

And my most top of the line answer- adopt! Adoption doesnt' have to be a newborn or infant. There are lots of children in the system that need a good home and love and support of a parent like figure. Besides the waiting list for a newborn/infant is very long and usually go to couples that have been trying for years and can't have children of their own.

Finally- If none of the above are for you, you could become a foster parent. All the children in the system needing to be adopted also need a place to live until then. They need a safe place, a place that will support and nurture them, and help them to grow in the emotional way, etc.

You never know, after being a foster parent, you may want to adopt.

One of my best friends was a foster parent and he ended up adopting three of the cutest little boys ever. they were brothers and also have three or four sisters that were adopted by other families in the the community so they could all stay near one another and be an extended type family.

Just some options for you to think about. Good luck on your journey to having a family.

Answer 3

There are several answers to this question! To make a informed remark people would need to know why there are no men around. I have never been anywhere where there were not any people of the opposite sex around. So I would take it that the men around you are not of your liking. Therefor I can think of one thing right off the bat. LOWER YOUR STANDARDS. You don't have to marry the guy. You just want to get pregnant! But make sure that all you want!! The other is artificial insemination, or test tube babies. The first is far less expensive then the lad-er. However you chose be sure you want the responsibility of a child. The the last recourse would be adaption.

Answer 4

Have you finished your education-have a good job,have a place to stay that you can afford, having a baby is not like playing with a doll,when you get tired you can put it aside-when you have a child you no longer have a life because everyday,everything you do from that day on means that your child come first-it is no longer what you want -it what my child need,how do i get oit and where do i get it and who will help me raise this child-please don't rely on other people to help you-you have to learn how to help yourself,that include some of those so call friends you now have. so until you can understand everything about raising a child -which is a life time job-don't under take the task,and don't put a child through all od the drama

Answer 5

I don't recommend going to the bar to seek a sperm donor! You want some idea of what's going on with the other side of the gene pool.
There's no hurry, women are successfully having children in their 30's & even in thier 40's, why not give it a chance you can't possibly know you won't meet the "one" tomorrow.
I'm unsure what you expect as a single parent & I hope that if you choose that route... you have VERY supportive friends & family surrounding you.
Make sure you're also somewhat financially sound & you are ready to give up your freedom. It's the biggest responsibility you will ever have...don't take it lightly.
Good Luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 6

I don't advise having a one-nighter and rope some unsuspecting guy into parenthood, even if you don't expect him to stick around. I think you'd regret that in the long run. Besides it's possible you'd contract something from unprotected sex, especially if it takes you a while to get pregnant.

If you are financially secure then I'd say adopt or try artifical insemination (where the father WANTS to be anonymous). Or you can do it the old fashioned way and try to meet a marriage minded man and start a family. They are out there.

Answer 7

Don't you think you have a problem and should get help before you have kids? 29 and DESPERATELY want kids. WOW! I don't know where you live, but no guys around. I feel sorry for the child if you do get pregnant. Probably no dad and a desperate mother.

Answer 8

To me 29 isn't that old! WHY are you so "desperate" to have a kid? If it's because you want to nurture someone and you're trying to fit it into your schedule/career, then okay, but get out a piece of paper and check off these reasons:

I want to have a kid because:

-It's the thing to do.
-Everyone ELSE has at least one.
-It's time.
-I'm lonely.
-I need someone to love me unconditionally.
-I want a live doll to dress up.
-I want to carry on the family name
-Babies are just CUTE!
-It will make me happy.

If you anwer "Yes" to even ONE of those, you are probably desperate to have a kid for selfish or warped reasons! Try "Finding yourself" first...then maybe a loving guy...you are young and have plenty of time.

Our little bundle of joy didn't arrive 'til I was 37! I had plenty of time to party and travel, get a career going...and having a child WITH THE RIGHT PERSON made it so much more special.

If, after a few yrs., this doesn't happen and you REALLY want a kid so you can love them, cherish and care for the, then look into adoption. Thousands of kids out there need a home!

Answer 9

Thats a tough question. It is hard to meet anybody without the option of wanting a child. I suppose you have a pc you could try date agencies to screen for a father or to set up a meeting with someone who also would like to parent but without the responsibilties. There are a lot of on-line agencies there to help you if you want to do a little research. You can always ask on line for interested doners but you should also be careful. I can understand your needs but you must also protect against diseases. you should try to strike up conversations with interested others and try to meet some one. If you cant escape maybe they could come to you!! If you are serious enough you could post something on line and let the bidding begin!! Again caution first. Good luck hope you find what you are looking for!

Answer 10

What would I do? I would very seriously ask myself why I was so desperate. Desperation is not a very good frame of mind to bring a child into the world. Desperation is not attractive to a man. Many desperate women want a baby but not a child; with neither the ways & means or the male counterpart with which to raise a balanced child in this world.

Answer 11

Good luck on bringing a kid into the world with no Daddy. I've worked in retail for a great many years and whenever I see an -out-of-control kid running amuk in the store it's a single-parent kid. Same is true in the schools. Seems like the mothers don't love 'em as much. But plenty of women are doin' what your thinking about, so knock yourself out. At two in the AM in any bar in town, a woman can choose from among any amount of willing sperm donors. Not so difficult, really. Good luck.