Have any of you had a fling/affair with a co-worker?

Question

I have a younger co-worked whose made some passes at me and I'm thinking about going for it. Should I?

Answer 1

Don't get your honey where you make your money.

Here are the reasons behind this cute little saying:
- if you go start dating her and then have an ugly break-up, things will be very weird at work.
- people will get annoyed with your guys' behavior during the honeymoon period of your relationship.
- it'll distract you from your work.
- if one of you gets promoted, people will suspect the other of getting special treatment and kickbacks.
- most companies look down and discourage this kind of thing, anyway.

Answer 2

How much younger are talking here? Younger but you're both consenting adults correct? Assuming that age is really not a factor in this one, consider that she's your co worker. A fling is never just a fling when you work with someone. It can get ugly if things don't work out and even if does work out, it can still get ugly. Consider that many companies do not allow dating among employees. They may just let it go but is usually a huge no no because it causes all sorts of sexual harrassment issues that companies simply do not want to deal with. Secondly, it does not seem like you like her enough. It seems as if she's interested and willing and you're just there because she is. Do you really wanna risk your job for somebody that you don't even really like? Granted you don't need the jpb and this is just a hobby for you. What if she sees it as more than just a fling later on and wants a relationship and you don't. Girls get bitter and do stupid things. Believe me.

Answer 3

I had a fling with a co-worker once, it ended badly lucky for me he ended up moving to someplace else.

But I would be careful, flings with co-workers can be dangerous, you could lose your job. What happens when she wants more then just a fling? she might start spreading lies about you.

I would never date a co-worker again. Though I must say that I have hard of people dating co-workers and they got married and it worked out fine, but I think that is rare

Answer 4

Yes, I have a fling with a lot of co-workers... not a relationship. Make sure she understands that. Tell her alone before you get to a hotel. Also, make sure she can't get you into trouble with work. Woman may try to get somewhere in there career on their knees. And if you already have a relationship at home, don't let her know where you live or what you phone number is...women can be vindictive when they get dumped.

Answer 5

I'd have to say that's a big YES. Nothing ventured, nothing gained as they say. Those who say no either have never done anything wild in their lives or maybe they've just been burned in the process. So, just be dam smart before going ahead with it and make sure both sides know it's just a "fling". And most importantly, don't get caught by anyone else who works there !! Talk about a nightmare. :(

Answer 6

I ended up sleeping with a guy that I worked with about 3 years ago and it totally messed up. Not only did our friendship ever get back to normal but our working relationship crashed and burned too.

There's also the fact that I spoke about it to one of my closests friends in my workplace and by the end of the day everybody knew what had happened.

I seriously wouldnt go for it from my previous experience. Not only that is your company one of these companies that is against inter-relations? Think about all the outcomes - talk at work, work being difficult in the future, bosses getting involved. On the other hand you could end up together for a long time!!!

Answer 7

It depends on where you work. I worked at a video store for about ayear and had this fling with a co-worker who was the hottest guy there!

And then I worked at a computer warehouse and had a fling with an older guy.. we are now engaged with a beautiful baby girl!

Answer 8

You said a co-worker, a fellow worker is OK. But if you have a higher position than her you have to watch yourself, is dangerous, very dangerous. She will have control of you during and after the relation ends and that 's when you have to be careful. She will used it against you and will ask for favors or she could yell sex harassment and this could cost you your job and if you are married, your family. Think with your head and not your d-----, because it will cost you. Good luck.

Answer 9

Yes I did. I still have feelings for him. I guess it's a good thing he works a different shift so I never have to see him again.

If it doesn't work out, you still have to see that person every day. It can be very awkward. Also that other person might have a big mouth and tell other co-workers your personal business. There are plenty of other people to date who DON'T work where you do.

Answer 10

You are looking for approval to go ahead so I am sure you will not listen to the good advice which I am about to give you.

Yes I have had a fling with a coworker - It wound up being a total disaster.....never crap where you eat - so to speak...

Don't do it!! definitely not unless you are both single and you are willing to put up with an acrimonious breakup in an office setting.

Answer 11

I dont think it would be a good idea, I've not done it, but would think that it could make the workplace uncomfortable if you two broke up. Not just uncomfortable for the two of you but for every one else. Think of it, your fellow coworkers will feel like they have to choose a side if there's a feud between the two of you. It WILL open both of your lives to office gossip [moreso than usual since everyone is a victim]. The list goes on and on...