We have tried letting him cry it out and he goes for at least 1 1/2 hours screaming. We have tried bribing him. We have tried gradual steps - starting with pallet on the floor in our room. He has a brother in the same room. He can see us from his bed (our door is open). We have tried classical music. Any ideas?
2006-10-17 06:30:37 · 21 answers · asked by branflakes 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When my son got a big boy bed I made it really exciting for him.
We would play on it before he when to sleep, so he wouldn't think it was a drag to sleep in it. We lay on his bed and read books and play with little dinosaurs or whatever. Then I turn off the light and we lay there together for about 5 minutes. Then I tell him I'm going to sleep now too and that I'll be back in a little while.
Then in the morning I crawl in his bed and wake him up! Hopefully that helps you some!
2006-10-17 07:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When we moved our oldest from her crib to her "big girl bed" she wanted NO part of that whatsoever. What finally worked was we would put her in bed starting an hour earlier than her bed time because we knew it would be a long night (she did the screaming bit too) and we'd put her in bed and every minute or so one of us would go in there and tell her how good she was doing if she was still in bed. Eventually it got to where she would expect us to come in and she'd stay in bed. We started with seriously every minute or two and gradually worked our way up to every 5 then ten and so on. But we tried everything from bribes to time outs (that was desperation talking) but just showing her we were still around and proud of her finally did the trick. It took a good three to four weeks, but she's not 5 1/2 and wouldn't sleep in our bed if she HAD too! lol
2006-10-17 08:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should show him whos the boss leave him in bed let him cry if he keeps getting out put him back carmly and you could put a little night light in his room and even play relaxing nursery rhyms and put loads of teddys on his bed so he feels safe and also try too read him a good bed time story untill he falls asllep cuz there is some reason why he wont go to sleep soundly trust me babe try all these tips my sister had the same problem she hired somebody proffesional and that was the routine plus before putting him too bed tell him what a big boy he is if he goes to sleep in his own bed you will be surprised with these tips honey just do it and see if none of these work with him try taking him to the doctor and tell the doctor you have tried all these and he still dont feel like going too sleep in his own bed good luck honey
2006-10-17 07:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by donna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't want to hear this....but I saw this on nanny 911. There was a kid on the show that kept coming into bed with his parents. The nanny suggested that no matter how many times you have to walk him to his bed, that's what you have to do.
I had to do this with my daughter and in one night I think I put her 'to bed' about 15 times. It was hard, and I got little sleep, but eventually it worked. She is 3 and I tell her that mommy and daddy need there sleep too. She is a big girl, and big girls get there own big girl bed. Have you tried a favorite 'bedding set?'
Is there a favorite character that he likes that maybe you can buy him as a reward?
My daughter had a tv in her room as well, and I reward her with movies-for night time. She loves the wiggles, and elmo. Good luck, and keep your head up...let him know that you are the parent-YOU be in control..if not..he will be walking all over you!!
2006-10-17 07:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's harder when his brother is in the same room since you of course don't want to disturb HIS sleep. If this were happening in my house, I would move the BROTHER into our room on a pallet temporarily, so that you can let the other one truly cry it out. Anytime you try to let a child cry it out, and you end up rescuing them because you can't take it, they learn that if they cry long enough you won't stick to your guns. So you need to gate him in the room (with the door open), and let him cry it out for AS LONG AS IT TAKES, even if it's longer than 1 1/2 hours.
2006-10-17 12:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know children have different reasons why they want to sleep with their parents. Try to ask him why he wants to sleep with you guys. There is a reason why some kids dont have a problem with it and some others do.
I say this because I creeped to my parents room almost till i was eight. I was so scared of being alone in a dark room, I didnt have nightmares but i just couldnt sleep. I guess it was the sense of security what made me feel better.
Try to keep him busy all day, no naps during the day or if he practices a sport or activity after school he wil come home so tired that he will crash in his bed and sleep all night. I works with my 4 year old cousin.
2006-10-17 06:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by natarrenata 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I've seen quite a few episodes of Nanny 911 and there were a lot of couples who had this problem. Sometimes the kid would scream all night for 2 nights in a row before finally coming to terms with sleeping in their own room! You've got to stick with it, not just for an hour and a half.
2006-10-17 06:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by hera_of_athens 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with him sleeping in our bed however if you are adament about him sleeping in his own bed maybe you cold put a gate on his room ? if he gets up he will not be hurt.. does his brother go to bed at the same time? if not then this could be the problem he knows his brother is up so he is testing you to see if he can stay up. Establish a routine and stick with it. I always found putting him to sleep the easyest for our family so I would rub his back for about 15 mins till he fell asleep I gradually rubbed for lesser amount of time untill he was getting drowsy then I would leave etc...
2006-10-17 06:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by cameron b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my son has been sleeping in his own bed since 16 months and now he is two. I reassured him that when he wakes up I will be here for him, I took gradual steps from his bed to the floor to the door when he cried I reassured him I was there for him, plus I sing to him and read to him
2006-10-17 11:42:46 · answer #9 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be firm. You said that he has screamed for 1 1/2 hours, well he needs to stay there until he falls asleep. He will eventually cry himself to sleep. I had to do this for my daughter and she was alone in the room (no siblings). It was hard for me to hear her cry and scream but it worked. It took me about a good 2 weeks to get her to do it with out crying but she would still complain. She also had a night light, but she is 14 now and doesn't even remember the whole incident. It's a matter of fact she can't believe that, she slept in my bed for as long as she did!
This person named cajun princess says you can lay with him until he falls asleep....That is the same thing as him sleeping in your bed except in a different room. (makes no sense). Also there is nothing wrong with a child crying.....It doesn't mean he is scared, it means he can cry to get his way because he know that is effective. Parents have been scared to let thier children cry for years, this makes your child grow up to feel that they have to catch some sort of fit to get thier way. This also makes them uncomfortable when a boss thells them NO.
It is a parents job to prepare a child for the Adult world. Don't get me wrong I also feel that a child needs 200% nuturing, but 0% catering to.
Dr. Phil has a book on this subject. Check it out of your library.
2006-10-17 06:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋