first of all i have a very open relationship with my son and we talk about everything. hes 10 going on 30....but this year he has been more withdrawn and seems to want to be alone alot...maybe even a little sad. he has that long hair and always keeps it in his eyes and hes really into the emo/punk/metal music, wears all black and wants to dye his hair. other than dyeing his hair (not just yet, hes too young), i have no problem with the music or the clothes, hes expressing himself i know. but he asked me what is emo and why they cut themselves......im just so worried..maybe im being too overprotective but is this normal for a 5th grader? ive talked to him about being sad and he seems fine.....but i know when i was young i hid stuff from my parents. anyone with a son like this? thanks :)
2006-10-17 06:30:35 · 14 answers · asked by tulips♥77 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
First not all "emo" people cut themselves so don't worry to much into that. But I don't think a 10 year old could be emo. He might like their style, but at 10 he is trying to find wear he best fits and the whole punk movement is "popular and trendy" these days. Just keep your relantionship open and continue letting him come to you no matter how hard the subject is. He is 10 he is exploring and discovering who he is and keep in mind he is yours always, no matter what style he desides to take.
2006-10-17 06:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he's not. Trust me, I'm young, I know what emo is.
Here's a little story to back myself up:
When I was ten years old I was going from fourth grade to fifth grade. That summer, all of a sudden, I was extremely moody and sad all the time and would cry over nothing. I'd just sit there, alone, crying. I thought there was something wrong with me. I thought I was depressed. I was scared I was going to need help.
THEN I went on a little trip to a health centre in fifth grade to a place where we learn about our developing bodies. I learned that what I was going through was simply mood swings and puberty. I realized it was normal. I felt so much better.
What is the point of my story? Talk to your son.....! Ask him if he's feeling a bit more emotional lately or having mood swings. Don't let him be as scared as I was! Once I the thought came that I might be depressed, I became even more depressed. Just let him know that it's normal, because it won't go away for a long time. I'm thirteen now, and I know how to deal with it and that it's normal.
So, yeah, that's my novel on how I got moody. Great story, eh? ;)
2006-10-17 16:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is this age, but he's pretty happy. I would be careful about what music he listens to and what kinds of tv shows & movies he watches. This is a hard age because they are getting older, but they aren't teenagers yet and they shouldn't be treated like they are. I would talk to his pediatrician about the depression. Kids can suffer from depression too. I don't know if your son is on any kinds of medications, but I do know that some drugs for ADHD are not good for kids once they start getting into puberty. Other than talking to his doctor aobut the depression, I'd just be sure to keep the lines of communication open with him.
2006-10-17 08:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the whole emo trend is really big this year. suddenly it's cool to be depressed and wear dark clothes. if all his friends are the same way, then that's why. but if he's the only kid around dressing like that, then you should be concerned. When i was a teenager, not too long ago, i always wanted my space from my parents. don't worry too much. it will end soon.
2006-10-17 07:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your son maybe starting to enter puberty. Emotional and probably not quite sure how to handle these feelings. My boys were both unusually moody at this age. Definitely keep the lines of communication open. Keep offering cause you never know when he'll accept the offer to talk.
2006-10-18 08:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem with him. emo is just a stupid music style for people who want to whine about everything. your son is just curious about things. If he hasn't cut himself and has no marks, why would you worry? and as far as not letting him dye his hair, you are just going to push him further away from you, and he will become more guarded when he talks to you, and not share like you want. Just make sure he knows that you are there for him, and that no matter what you love him. He will come to you for help, especially if you are accepting of him and the way he wants to be.
2006-10-17 06:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jon C 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-19 21:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi! i'm 16 right now, and i have a friend who was into emo.. oh well, try to suck the information kindly from him, just a little question sometimes, don't go off wandering in his belongings to find so hidden stuff (i think), and start talking with him about it and if he wants to do it too - the problem is, that some need just a little push to overcome themselfs, so that they can express their problems freely. hope that helped, good luck ^.-
2006-10-17 06:46:53 · answer #8 · answered by Elektra 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am not a parent but I am into alot of the stuff you listed about him not the cutting or anything but pay close attention to who he is around mainly his friends at school.
2006-10-17 06:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by zach o 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My 10 year old son still talk to his stuffed animals just like they are real, and calls me mommy so I don't know what to say. I am a teacher and we don't have any kids that fit that description at our school of 200 kids age 6 months to 12th grade!
2006-10-17 07:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by BAR 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋