i have recently moved back home with my parents after i moved out to college. And when i moved back i also came back to the old job i used to work at. I loved this job and i am happy to be back but there is only one problem, there is a guy there who makes me go nuts. He is very handsome and he is also engaged. Now i am not looking to go after him or anything like that but the probelm that i am having is that i cant stand him, and i also have these uncontrolable feelings for him. Now he is not my type, because of the things that he does, but also the fact that he is taken. From my understanding of what his bestfriend told which his best friend is also one of my best friends at work, told me that a lot of girls like him and two of the girls where willing to do a thresom with him, which is grows, and not to mention against all gods orders and rules. Back to the problem, well he is so in love with his finance and all but the thing is that she does not mind if he flirts with other girls and he does do just this. From my understand he flirst because it passes the day by. Which i gues is a good reason and what can a little bit of fun do at work. When he flirts with me though and i try to fight it and i try not to flirt back but im a big flirt so it does not work out well. And i know it means something to him. But i dont want him to flirt him with me and infact i hate him for it. I dont want anything to do with his little flirts. Now my question is how do i not flirt with him and how do i just brush it off my shoulders. And his gf/ fiance is a good friend of my. for this reason i would never do anything, but i can not control my heart but i can control my actions, physically i will be loyal to this friend of my but mentally i am always fighting a battle with my heart and my emotions. Also another part i forgot to mention is that he loves to get me angry and he loves to mess with me, just to tick me off, i hate that. I dont want to speak to him, i Dont want to flirt with him i dont want to look at him, i period dont want anything to do with him. How do i get this guy off my mind and off my nervous for good. And what is it that i am fealing for him..
2006-10-17 06:23:50 · 11 answers · asked by someday 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By this LONG explanation it sounds like you don't hate him. It sounds like you hate him bc you want him and can't ever have him. If you accept that then you will be able to get over him and the flirting won't bother you. It probably bothers you bc you know it's something he doesn't genuinely mean and you would like it to hold some value. Sorry, he's taken. Move on!
2006-10-17 06:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by Pimp E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't feel love for him if that is what you are asking. You lust after him that is plain to see. Controlling your heart is not the problem it's controlling your emotions that is the problem. As far as not flirting with him well that is totally up to you and it is very easy, all you have to do is STOP doing it. Oh from your description I would give him and his fiance about another year or less before he does something stupid and screws it all up.
2006-10-17 13:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did we really need all that detail. How bout this. I work with this guy that keeps flirting with me and I want nothing to do with him, how do I keep from flirting with him? Answer is pretty simple, deal with him as you have to at work but no more than that. You said you hate him, and he makes you angry so I dont understand what the problem is here.
2006-10-17 13:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just a giddy feeling you get because you are attracted to him.
My best advice would be to ignore that feeling and go find a man that you are interested in and is single.
You wouldnt want to break up their relationship would you? And you sure wouldnt want him to cheat on her either.
Besides, if you ended up getting with him...after so long he is gonna do the same thing he is doing with his current fiance. I say leave him alone.
2006-10-17 13:35:15 · answer #4 · answered by I Love My Kitties 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you caught the bad boy fever. Only way your going to be able to stop it is 1. sleep with him. or 2. stay away from him (which your not going to be able to do unless you get a different job) Im sorry, but no easy way out of this one.
2006-10-17 13:34:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it looks to me and you might be to uptight and if he's just flirting a little and his girlfirend doesn't mind then you need to get over it and play it off or you need to ask him to stop. Either or it's really if you think about not that serious
2006-10-17 13:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by Babs B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to much writing to read but from what i have read well try finding someone else is the best way to get over a guy or tell him you have feelings for him but they don't mean anything and maybe he will help you
2006-10-17 13:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by Charlotte.♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust, don't get tangled in a web. Find a man that is worth your time and effort. Not one that belongs to another. Unless, that is all you think your worth. "Go Figure"
2006-10-17 13:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have already told us all the reasons that you shouldnt talk to him so take your own advice. Plus you said his fiance is a friend of yours, hello.
2006-10-17 13:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre probably attracted to him. but if you ignore him he should go away sooner or later. unless he slow in which case you really dont want him lol
good luck
2006-10-17 13:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋