I've been in a relationship for less than a year, everything going well till this past summer. My man has been caught in numerous lies. It all started on a day I had to work, he had tix to a movie but knew I couldn't attend, so what does he do? Invite some chick from his past. I had a funny feeling so I kept on questioning him and he finally told the truth and ended up not going to the movies. The next thing was when there was a temp at his job and he was hitting on her and told her he was single. He even had the nerve to take her to get coffee at a park that was special to us..get this..it was the same day we were to meet up and he ended up being 2 hours late, his excuse being work. I didn't believe him and eventually found out the truth. He promised to never do it again, but then the other day he tried talking to someone behind my back again, and my intuition told me something was up. What should I do? I love him but refuse to be a fool to any man!
2006-10-17 06:20:11 · 22 answers · asked by lovelylady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's attempted at cheating on you at least twice in your description. Are you just not seeing it? Love is blind sometimes but come on! He's taken other girls to places you two like to go, he's used lame excuses on you. Just leave him. If he wants back in your life then he'll have to earn it. You let him walk all over you and no one deserves that much disrespect. Tell him it's over and maybe if he gets his act together you can give it another try.
2006-10-17 06:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ally S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't! Nobody deserves that, but as far as chances go it depends on the circumstance you know, some people deserve a lot of chances, others who do this just don't at all, seems to me you have already given him your second chance, dont make a mistake and give him a 3rd chance, because 3 will shortly turn into 4 and 4 into 5...I know this...Experience...Its a painful experience, some people want to learn for themselves and if thats what you want then go for it, no decision is easy but if you want your love life to work then maybe being with him isn't the answer, there are a lot of people out in the world you dont need to devote yourself to him if hes gunna treat you like that!!
Good Luck!
2006-10-17 06:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by CheaKat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So stop playing the part of the fool already. If you are willing to endure more and more lies then keep heading down the path you're on. Otherwise you need to take steps in another direction.
2006-10-17 06:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he knows you love him and he's using that to his advantage. Actions speak louder than words, if he tells you one thing and does the other, he's only interested in himself. He may tell you he loves you too but his actions prove otherwise. He will continue to play you because you let him. There are so many other men out there, this ones a waste of time.
2006-10-17 06:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by Rochelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has already made you a fool.
Dump him and get on with your life. He it seems like he just wants to play around, I dont think he was looking for anything serious to begin. He wanted to know that he would always have a woman wating on him, but he also wants to go out and play.
2006-10-17 06:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by E_E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 16:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by zorine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no more chances for him - every hear the saying, "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."
He's just waiting for you to end it and do the dirty work cause most guys hate that confrontational and honesty thing - they just rather be dogs behind your back and hope you eventually get the hint - he's not worth it - move on - better yet don't even contact him or take his calls & see how he reacts to that.
2006-10-17 06:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a big beliver in second chances. Sounds like this guy has already blown his second, third, etc. Anyway right here he said he never would do it again and then he went out and did it again! Dump him.
2006-10-17 06:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust & communication are a must in any relationship! You two have neither... Lick your wounds & move on. His behavior is habit... And you can not change it. He has to want to change it and it appears that he has no intentions on doing so.
2006-10-17 06:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by valerie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey it's sound like you have given him enough chances already. you already gave THREE instances where he has lied to you, doesn't seem that he is stopping, i'd say move on and find somebody more respectful of you and that loves you as much as you love them.
2006-10-17 06:27:46 · answer #10 · answered by my101201cutiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋