2006-10-17 06:17:58 · 69 answers · asked by Sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It probably seems harder than it really is.
Tell him that you want to leave him, but let him know you don't think he is a bad person, or that he meant nothing to you. It will be fine, just let him know he isnt a complete loser :)
2006-10-17 06:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by k-mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be completely honest. While this can hurt short term in the long run it will actually help him with future relationships. Also, let him know that the time you spent together wasn't a mistake but that you have grown out of the relationship. Wish him well and then just simply leave. Don't tell him that you'll remain friends that's the last thing that anyone wants to hear. Then just leave him alone,don't call to see how he's doing, don't respond to email or phone calls. These are desperate attempts to hold onto the past. The pain will heal faster if left alone.
2006-10-17 06:26:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no way you can let him "down easy". After all, you rejecting him, and right or wrong, you will have to carry a little bit of guilt and regret with doing it. Just tell him that you don't feel the same way about him anymore and that you want to go your own way. Here are a few "don'ts". I'm not being nasty, but just letting you know how I (and I assume most guys) would want it.
1) Whatever you do - DON'T TELL HIM THAT YOU STILL WANT TO BE FRIENDS!! - most guys HATE that with a blue passion. Guys don't want to be your friend after you dump them - they want to hate you for breaking up with them - so let them go.
2) Don't say it was his fault unless he had a glaring defect somewhere in his character that led to the breakup.
3) Don't tell him that is your fault - since you are breaking up with him - he will find plenty of faults with you....
4) Don't keep in contact with him - break it off cleanly
5) Don't let him keep in contact with you
Realize that you probably aren't going to be or stay friends after this and that there is no "easy" way to break up. You are going to feel guilty for awhile, but you will get over it. Just be honest and go on with your life.
2006-10-17 06:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find a girl that you know who likes him. Introduce them. Then tell him that you'll always think of him as a dear friend, but that you think he'll be happier with someone else, because at this point in your life, you're not sure what want in a relationship.
I know this statement is a little bit hard on you, but if you've loved him and want it to be easy on him, then it's OK to blame it on your current state of indecision. He leaves still feeling good about you. You move on without guilt. Everyone wins.
2006-10-17 06:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not interested in dating you anymore. Not now and not ever again. If you want to be friends, I'm ok with that as long as you understand it is never going to happen again.
Have a nice life.
Letting a guy down easy gives him false hope of you taking him back someday. Drop him like a bad stock... it's the most humane way to end it.
2006-10-17 06:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by keysfunding 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and have a talk with him and tell him that things aren't working out with you guys. There ain't no easy way to let someone go. Tell him you guys can still be friends thats what I usually do and know I'm friends with all my ex boyfriends and now they are like my best friends.Good luck and hope everything works out good for you.
2006-10-17 06:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you're with him, the harder it will be, in my opinion. If this is a short lived relationship, it's best to be honest, but in a friendly manner so he knows you are sincere. If you would like to remain friends, is always an option, to show him you don't intend to hurt him. If you just don't feel mutul about how the relationship is going, point that out too. It has to be a two way street, so to speak. Good luck!
2006-10-17 06:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question should be why do you want to break up with him? If you're just looking for the next swimmer in the sea, you need to tell him that. If he is a total loser, you need to tell him that, too. Honesty is the best policy. Yes, he'll hate you in the short term, and maybe longer, but he won't be an enemy to you. And that will help if you want to date one of his friends in the future, or right after you break up with him.
2006-10-17 06:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel if he's in love and you're his first love he won't take it very easy you'll have to work through this with him, When you talk to him be very calm about the situation let know whats going on why you feel that things are'nt just going the way you think they should be going.
2006-10-17 06:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by Frances D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there really a way to let someone down easy?
NO
Just do it so he can go on with his life. Don't drag this out because the longer you wait the more he thinks all is good and the harder he will fall.
2006-10-17 06:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋