my mother is paralyzed and my father says he doenst want me going to a far away college such as new york, but i told him thats one of my top choices. so should i choose a college closer to home just so they can visit me more, or far away so i can experience more things...i mean i have no problem with them visiting, but just the fact that i might regret not taking a chance and leaping into a big city like new york city.
2006-10-17 06:17:03 · 16 answers · asked by fawkingsupergirl 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
I don't think you should choose a college based on what your parents want but also don't choose the one that's farthest away JUST because it's the farthest away. Choose the college that's right for you and will help you succeed in life. Location doesn't matter, it's the education that is important. Good luck!!
2006-10-17 06:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by lover_of_paints_&_quarter_horses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several people have mentioned what a tough choice this is. Your parents are supporting you, but you want to be independent.
I think you might make a deal with them. if you go a couple years to a school nearby, then they will let you transfer to a NY school. When you are 18 and far away from home, New York can be totally overwhelming! The distractions there can keep you away from your studies, and if you start feeling lonely there is no place worse to be than NYC. But when you are a little older and a little more experienced at being on your own, you will be able to deal with NYC a lot better. And because you will be 21 (or almost 21) you will be able to do more things in NYC without needing a fake ID or any of that nonsense. And this would give your parents a chance to get used to you being away from home.
THink about whether a compromise is possible.
2006-10-17 08:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are the ones footing the bill for college, then you will probably have to agree to what they say. On the other hand compromise. Maybe you can do 2 years a local college and then 2 years at a far away college. Or maybe you can attend the far away school via the internet for 2 years, before moving permantly to attend the college that is close by. Another suggestion is visit NY and the college you want to attend before you commit to any college. You may not like the city life and what the college has to offer.
2006-10-17 06:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tarheel Girl 08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi - sorry to hear about your mom having mobility issues.
I think you should give your parents' wishes a pretty hefty weight in considering what college you choose. Your Dad, in particular, stressed that he wants you to be close, probably for a variety of reasons. The way I see it, you will have a lifetime to experience things. After college, it would seem reasonable to go to NYC to start a career, which is a great way to experience the city. By that time, your parents will have experienced your being away and on your own and it won't feel so shocking for them. there's also the money factor - are they helping you pay or will you be paying for everything yourself? If they are helping to pay, I say that gives them even more influence on your choice. Good luck - you're lucky to have a Mom and Dad who care about your choices to such an extent!
2006-10-17 06:29:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother's care is your father's responsibility, at least while is is able. It is honorable for you to help your family, but the best way to do that may be for you to go further away.
If you live in a small town, going to a big city could be an economic benefit for your family in the long term, as you could end up with a higher paying job, and the benefits that come with that.
It's best to make your decisions with regard to your family, but that doesn't mean that you should give up what you need, either.
2006-10-17 06:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by Polymath 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't mention who is paying for college. You also didn't tell us is someone has to care for your mother. If your father is a gazillionaire, then go where you want and they can take the private jet to visit you and they can pay for a full time nurse for your mother. If however, your father is working hard to just get by and his poor wife is paralyzed and needs care that is unaffordable, then maybe you can stick around and help out you spoiled little brat.
2006-10-17 06:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by etilyad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on whether what your parents are saying is based upon an objective survey that they have made about various colleges or based on their paranoidal notions. if it is an objective point of view, you can consider the pros and cons of it, have an open discussion with your parents about what other ideas you have, and then make an informed choice that would be beneficial to you in the long run. let there be reason and logic behind the decision, not just your impulsive emotions.
2006-10-17 06:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by whatsinaname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if I was you I'd definitely want to also go to NY especially 'cause apparently it's the better answer.
However, it's also better for you to be closer to your family 'cause of your mother and also because families generally become much sadder when one of their members moved away.
I live in Egypt and I travelled to Canada for a semester and my sister, mother and father were always upset that I was far away. I remember one time my sister called me and was basically crying 'cause she missed me and it just made me feel so sad.
So think carefully and think from their point of view. Good luck!
2006-10-17 06:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do try to visit the school you would like to attend, learning about their programs and how thier graduates rank in the workforce.
Choose your school based on that school's sucess rates are for that field. You would certainly go to a school for fashion in New York or California, but your best tech bets are in Chicago.
2006-10-17 06:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your father and let him know that you will be able to visit during holiday breaks. and its not like you are leaving forever.
You have to do what is going to make you happy. If you have the chance to enjoy new experiences... take it.
Also you should think about which school is going to give u a better education..
2006-10-17 06:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋