I met my man on the net (IRC)and before we met personaly we used to phone each other and to change mail. After a few months we met, we started dating and now four years later we decided to get married! We are still young and marriage is a big step? We have a baby.Do you know any similar situations that have worked out?
2006-10-17 06:09:25 · 22 answers · asked by Ana GG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It appears that you have worked through all the issues, marriage is a big step, but since you already have a child I would welcome the fact that you have chose this avenue to express the love you share for each other. I hope you have a happy life together.
2006-10-17 06:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer... no.
Nothing is happily ever after. A marriage is good times as well as bad, if you are willing to make it work than you can have a good marriage.
But the fact that you are questioning it, maybe means you aren't too sure about the relationship to begin with. You need to decide before you take that huge step. Don't just get married b/c you think "it's the right thing to do" since you've been together so long, or b/c you have a child. Get married for the right reasons, otherwise it won't last anyway. I'm not trying to be negative or anything, I'm just being honest since you asked. :)
But yes interent relationship can lead to happy marriages, I met my husband online too.
2006-10-17 06:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by *~Mom2aJellybean~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Weddings are such feel-good things, with you being with all your friends, and them wishing the best for you.
But, it's also a big thing to think, I'm never going to go out with anyone else, he's the one I'm going to wake up with for ever.... Are you prepared for that? Or is there a little bit of you that thinks No, I can't ?
I thought, I'll give it a go, and we've worked our way through various 'challenges'. We're better together now than we've ever been, our relationship has matured. The key is communication - don't stop talking, or discussing problems; also make sure you make up before bedtime after an argument, say sorry whether it's your fault or not (but without being a total doormat, obviously!). I've learnt to always support him, not to put him down or criticise him in front of people. Respect, I suppose you'd call it.
This man will, I hope, be your best friend, although you can't be all things to each other and will need other friends too. Best of luck. Shame we can't all come to the wedding!
2006-10-17 06:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as happily ever after.
It really doesn't matter how you start out what matters is how you live day to day. There will be days you want to kill your partner... just don't act on it.
Remember communiction is a key element in how happy your relationship will be over all. Not jut the ability to talk but the ability to listen with an open mind and heart. Your partner may come to you some day with something that you do is bothering him. Are you going to get defensive or will you love him enough to listen, look within yourself, and fix the problem?
Ask anyone who has celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary and they will tell you that it has been a long hard road filled with compromise and work.
If you are having doubts then wait a little longer. Discuss these doubts with your partner and hopefully the two of you can work through them and find a solution. If you can't... then there isn't much hope for your future as man and wife. You have to be able to work through these things. Don't ever "sweep issues under the rug" because they will always be there and rise to the surface again eventually.
Good Luck!
2006-10-17 06:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who care's how you met, the point is you met and have a child now...... Why are you stressing over how you met, that is the last thing to think about. Think about the fact that you love him and he loves you and you have a child together. I think its going to work out between you both it already has. You should take the mean advice your hearing from others, which I am assuming you are, because you shouldn't feel that way. The point is you met, it really doesn't matter how you met. Good Luck
2006-10-17 08:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I met my husband on an internet personals site. We moved in together within a few months of meeting each other, and got married just over a year later. So far it's working out beautifully, I am very lucky to have met him! We are very compatible.
Congrats.
2006-10-17 06:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband on the Internet. We got engaged after nearly a year and married 6 months after that. We will be married 4 years next month. We have twin toddlers. So far so good!
2006-10-17 06:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have quite a few close friends that met online and married and are happy. I met two of my best friends on line and lived with one of them for a year (as roomies). I hope that you live happily ever after and don't listen to anyone that tells you otherwise :)
2006-10-17 06:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jez 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but I know of several that didn't.
Just remember that the leading cause of divorce is marriage.
The odds are against anyone who is getting married. But, it's a crapshoot, so belly up to the line and take your best shot. Good luck!
2006-10-17 06:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is possible if you truly love each other. Remember that marriage is not all about the good times, but getting through the bad times together. Trust and communication are key. If you think you have what it takes, go for it!
2006-10-17 06:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by Dave S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋