i like this guy where i work but i feel so awkward and nervous around him cause i like him i find it hard to talk to him and need some advice. As how are we to progress if i find it hard talking to him incase i embarass myself. The thing is hes moved offices to the one next door. I thought it would help but i just feel now hes next door i cant talk to him at all.
2006-10-17 06:04:21 · 8 answers · asked by joanne100uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be you!
2006-10-17 06:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Yaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don;t you try asking this guy out for a drink it does'nt need to be a date just a casual thing after work .
make it a day in the week so as not to hint at anymore than a nice and cosy evening with a glass of wine or whatever just to get to know eachother better (and don't drink to excess just make it a couple of glasses to make things comfortable), you need to find out what this guy is like and whether or not he is single and if all goes well then you won't be as nervous the next time you see each other at work and you can go from there.
good luck and all the best
2006-10-18 05:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by Creator of dreams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so undertand you! I had similar situation at work, and one day after 6 months in the same office at the office party after having a few drinks I stood in front of him, told him i found him very attractive and if he didn't mind I would like to kiss him... well, we kissed and it was sooooooo good i will never forget it...
anyway next day at work i felt so damn akward, didn;t know what to say, couldn;t look at him on the corridor: he was at the next door room and for all day i could hear him talking.... so at the end of that day i decided to go and talk with him.( my legs were like made of gum!) I said " well, I don't usually act like this, but you know when you drink something you can act strange" and he said smiling ' well at least you have an exuse". so I said ok. we will work as if nothing happened. he agreed. but I didn't want it to end like this.;) so just before living his office I said: just in case, I am still willing you to do me the things you wished to do the other evening... if you could see his face, he was speechless for a few seconds ( it doesn;t happen to him) and then he asked: seriously? I said yes and left the room.
It was 3 years ago we had unbeliveable romantic adventures both at work and after working hours... we still treat it as an adventure and are not officaly a couple, although we are both single...
if you want to know my opinion - go for it. remember to check if he is seing someone first and not to put much pressure on him.
have fun!!!!!!!!
2006-10-17 15:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by ywe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to be as natural as possible around him! Invite him and some other work mates out for a drink after work and try talking to him then.....the relaxed atmosphere might help you to stop feeling so shy and embarrassed......the hopefully he'll see just what a lovely person you are and thank his lucky stars that its him you chose to fancy! Good luck!!!!!
2006-10-17 15:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by cheekimadam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant remember when was the last time I felt like that about someone I worked with? Probably never or he was my boss and then you just never go there! But try sending a friendly email 1st to test the waters, then take it from there.I hate being embarrassed, I always like to play it safe.
2006-10-17 16:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act normal and be yourself. Doing anything else usually never works. People can sometimes sense when you're being fake, so don't force it.
2006-10-17 13:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you need to decide if he is worth it or not.
Use the telephone if it helps you stay calmer, and remember you have nothing to lose.
2006-10-17 13:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by 'Dr Greene' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please read/refer to the hundreds of other questions on this!!!!
2006-10-17 13:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋